About my Blog

Posted by Diva on July 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

For those of you who have just stumbled across my blog, I thought I should tell you a little bit about why I’m here. You’ll probably be able to work it out from scrolling down my previous posts; I provide advice and information for anyone working in the sex industry. As an ex escort, this is the area I’m most knowledgeable about. I’m still in touch with several working girls, and from what I’ve heard, things haven’t changed that much in the last 2 years!

This blog is for escorts, doms and subs, exotic dancers, porn stars, web cam and phone line workers. It could also be of interest to any customers who use the sex industry and want to know the tricks of the trade. If there are any topics that I haven’t yet touched on, please get in contact and ask. If I don’t know much about it myself, I’m bound to know someone who does! I’m hoping that this will help anyone new to the industry, giving a bit of insight.

Enjoy the read,

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

How to Wear Your Hair

Posted by Diva on July 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

You’ve probably already gathered that my blog is all about escorts and sex workers, so you may have also cottoned on that I’m not talking about the hair on your head in this post. Pubic hair is very important – you have to maintain it well if you want to be successful in the sex industry.

For men, it’s much easier; most choose to just trim their hair with scissors or clippers, keeping it short and neat. Trimming your hair back can actually make your member look bigger, so it’s an added bonus to keep on top of it! Also, if a woman is giving you a blow job, she doesn’t want to get pubes in her mouth. Some men choose to shave it off completely; those brave enough to have the ’sack & crack’ wax should be commended! I can imagine that’s very painful.

Despite what women’s magazines say, girls are heavily judged on their pubic hair. If you’re completely unkempt, men will be turned off; at the very least you should trim the length. If you have hair showing out the sides of your underwear, it’s an indication that you need to maintain it better.

Manufacturers have brought out several shavers specifically for your delicate areas; some even have shapes that you can use to style your hair! The most common is a triangle or a strip. Some choose to shave everything off (remembering to go underneath and round the back), giving you a smooth finish. This is great for oral sex, but some feel it looks a bit juvenile. You also have to deal with the stubbly regrowth when shaving, and the possibility of shaving rash and ingrown hairs.

Another option is to wax. Popular styles are Brazilian and Hollywood, either leaving a ‘landing strip’ or removing all hair completely. This is one of the most painful options; some women are more sensitive than others. Avoid having a wax the week before your period (this is when it’s the most sensitive) and exfoliate gently to avoid ingrown hairs. The downside of this option is that you have to wait for it to grow long enough between appointments.

Electrolysis is a more long term option, but you’ll need several appointments for it to be effective and the cost can rack up. But think of all the money you could save in razor blades and waxing!

x Diva x

Lazy Positions

Posted by Diva on July 15th, 2010 | No Comments »

Sometimes, men like a woman to take control. You don’t have to be a complete dominatrix, but just knowing what you want and being assertive about it can be a real turn on for them. Whether it’s riding on top, holding their hands above their head or sitting on their face, taking the back seat can be very pleasurable for a man.

However, there are times when you’re absolutely exhausted and can’t quite muster up the energy to get vigorous; luckily for us, there are several sex positions that require minimal exertion. If your man is up for doing a bit of hard work, he will be greatly rewarded!

First of all there’s the classic missionary position. This lets the man assume his masculine role, taking control of the speed and depth of penetration. If you want to go a bit deeper, lift up your legs and balance them on his shoulders or arms as he holds himself up.

A great one for early morning or middle of the night sex is spooning; curl up on your side with your man curled around you, and he can penetrate you from behind. This is also useful if you have to keep quiet; there’s less creaking than missionary, letting him slide in and out of you gently. It also leaves his hands free to feel you all over, making this quite intimate.

If intimacy’s out the window and you don’t have the stamina for doggy style, try lying flat on your front and tilting your pelvis back towards him. He can penetrate you from behind, and if you squeeze your legs together when he’s inside the sensation will be even better for him. This is very little effort on your part with dynamite results!

x Diva x

Drunken Sex

Posted by Diva on July 14th, 2010 | No Comments »

People often seem to get more horny when they’re drunk. This is mostly because alcohol gives you confidence, so any hang ups that you might usually have in the bedroom are significantly reduced. You have less fear of rejection so are more likely to approach a woman, and may well feel like you’re an absolute stud. I remember a lot of late night calls at the escort agency I worked for, usually from drunk, horny men.

Unfortunately, alcohol is not a magic confidence cure; most people don’t know where to stop and will have a little bit too much. If you’re drunk, you will be sloppy which affects your technique, and you might find it more difficult to come. Those who suffer from premature ejaculation could see this as a good thing, but if you get too drunk you might not be able to come at all.

In the worst cases, you won’t even be able to get it up  - this is known as a Brewer’s Droop. You might feel very aroused, but find that nothing’s happening below the waist. For women, drinking too much can dry you up; it’s a well known fact that alcohol dehydrates you, and this doesn’t just affect your mouth. If you do want some drunken sex, make sure you use some lube so that it’s not uncomfortable for you.

If you do like a drink to boost your sexual confidence, I’d recommend two maximum – any more might be a hindrance!

x Diva x

Developing Feelings

Posted by Diva on July 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

You often hear stories about clients who develop an infatuation with escorts or sex workers who they see, but what about when it happens the other way round? If you’re seeing the same client on a regular basis, if you have a connection and he treats you like a Queen, you’re bound to get attached in some way.

It’s very rare that this will become an epic love story and that you’ll run away with each other into the sunset. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but just try to be realistic about it. First of all, think about how he sees you. Are you just sex to him, or does he value you more highly? Does he see other escorts too? Does he have a wife or a girlfriend?

If he’s already in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one), there will always be issues with trust. You know that he has cheated on his partner to be with you, so what’s to say he wouldn’t do that to you? He may also have problems with the fact that you’ve worked as an escort – he could start obsessing about the number of men you’ve slept with, or make you feel cheap when he wants to hurt you during an argument.

Some men might be very fond of you and see no other escorts, but have no intention of leaving their wives (often for monetary or family reasons). If you’re just his mistress, don’t build up your hopes that one day he’ll leave her for you. If you’re really in too deep, you might have to stop seeing that client. It will lose you a lot of money in bookings at first, but will be a great investment for your heart.

x Diva x

Know Your Lube

Posted by Diva on July 9th, 2010 | No Comments »

It’s very useful to have individual, small packets of lube. If you’re an escort who does outcalls, you probably don’t want to carry around a huge tube of it everywhere you go. It could be embarrassing if that fell out in a public place! Many manufacturers have come up with sachets that are small enough to fit in your wallet, and mini bottles no bigger than your lipstick. They’re much more discreet, and will be enough for one session.

I found that in a lot of the multi packs, you can get many different flavours and types of lubricant. From cherry to pina colada, and heating to tingling, you can experience different sensations from using these. My piece of advice to you is to test them out on a patch of your skin before diving in at the deep end! I learned this lesson the hard way.

Just because you’ve used one particular brand before, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be allergic to other ranges. For example, I had used ‘Durex Play’ for a long time and never had any problems. But when I used a flavoured sachet, all kinds of unpleasant burning sensations rubbed over my skin! You really don’t want this to happen with a client (luckily this was with my husband).

Just like hair dye packets advise you to try before you apply, lubricant needs to be tested on a delicate part of your skin before you put it on your precious parts!

x Diva x

The Lure of Lingerie

Posted by Diva on July 8th, 2010 | No Comments »

This may sound a bit obvious, but never underestimate the importance of good lingerie. Most clients expect escorts to arrive wearing matching garments in an attractive fabric such as silk or lace. Many also favour stockings and suspenders, and a corset or a basque. For the full get up you should let your escort know beforehand so that she can prepare, but girls – don’t expect a great reaction if you turn up in greying granny pants.

My elder sister always told me that it’s vital to wear nice underwear at all times. When I was teenage and hormonal, with boys seeming like the most important thing on the planet, she would ask me this: “What if you’re hit by a car, and a sexy doctor has to cut your clothes off? He’ll never fall in love with you if you’re wearing horrid knickers!” Since then, I’ve made sure that nothing embarrassing has made its way into my underwear drawer.

I don’t know what it is that’s so magical about matching lingerie; obviously push up bras emphasise your assets, but wearing a nice set shows that you’ve put thought into what you’re wearing. It shows that you’re aware of your sexuality, and that you want whoever is seeing it to desire you. Men are just being obedient, really!

You never know when you might be called for a last minute appointment, or run into an old flame on the street. My advice is to wear attractive underwear at all times!

x Diva x

The Netherlands Have the Right Idea…

Posted by Diva on July 5th, 2010 | No Comments »

I don’t think that the British Government will ever get it right when it comes to prostitution laws. As long as we have a stiff upper lip and refuse to acknowledge that there are huge problems in the sex industry, nothing will ever be solved. Pimping and trafficking is still rife, with girls getting raped and beaten by clients, boyfriends and even family. Politicians seem to think that by making laws against prostitution it won’t happen!

I think that the Netherlands have the right idea; there, prostitution is legal and it is regulated. This creates a safe working environment for the girls, allowing them to find clients without worrying that they will get arrested. It’s also legal to run a brothel, and as long as the owner is not taking advantage of the girls, this is also much more safe than women walking the streets, accepting incalls or working for a pimp.

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to completely wipe out crimes such as trafficking; there will also be bad people in the world who will do absolutely anything for financial gain. But to provide an environment where girls will not get beaten and raped, will use protection, will get regular check ups for STIs and can even pay taxes on their earnings, the sex industry would be a much better place!

x Diva x

Still Bored of Spam

Posted by Diva on July 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

I know I’ve posted about this a few times before, but I’m still bored of the ridiculous amount of spam this blog attracts. Have they not yet worked out that I personally moderate my comments, so links about viagra, life insurance and designer sunglasses will not get published??? I almost feel sorry for them wasting their time, but then I remember that they waste mine too when I have to plough through my comments box looking for the genuine ones.

If you do actually read my blog, find it useful or have any questions, I’d love to hear from you. If you’re just doing a bit of SEO and fancy your chances here, please sod off.

Thank you!

x Diva x

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