Understanding Your Industry

Posted by Diva on August 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Imagine being an escort who gets bought dinner in fancy restaurants, accompanies rich men to social events and exclusive parties, without having to offer any sexual services. It’s practically the perfect job for any pretty girl who enjoys an active social life; so many young women are eager to become an escort so that they can live this dream. Sadly, it’s not a reality for many people. Don’t you think we’d all be doing it if it was that easy?!

Of course, not all men want to pay for sex. Some genuinely want a female companion for a social occasion, so they will pay for an escort from a reputable agency. However, I’m sure that the same girl has performed sexual services for 90% of her other clients! Agencies are not allowed to advertise that sex is for sale as this is illegal in the UK, so you’ll find that it’s only insinuated on most websites. If you still think it’s all innocent, take a look at the photos: girls with their breasts on display, sticking their bottoms towards you in a naughty outfit. I’m not criticising these girls in any way as I was an escort of this kind myself, but do you really think they’re just offering some company at your work’s Christmas party?

Most escort agencies offer sex, even if it doesn’t say so specifically on their website. To think that you can join this agency and not offer any sexual services is very naive; yes, you’re well within your right to say no, but the client is also within his right to never book you again, and the agency are within their right to not send any more bookings your way if you leave a trail of dissatisfied clients who you’ve said no to.

Be sensible about it if you decide to become an escort; do your research and make sure you know exactly what it is you’re getting into. If  I’m completely wrong and there are agencies who offer social companionship only, please do correct me!

Developing Feelings

Posted by Diva on July 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

You often hear stories about clients who develop an infatuation with escorts or sex workers who they see, but what about when it happens the other way round? If you’re seeing the same client on a regular basis, if you have a connection and he treats you like a Queen, you’re bound to get attached in some way.

It’s very rare that this will become an epic love story and that you’ll run away with each other into the sunset. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but just try to be realistic about it. First of all, think about how he sees you. Are you just sex to him, or does he value you more highly? Does he see other escorts too? Does he have a wife or a girlfriend?

If he’s already in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one), there will always be issues with trust. You know that he has cheated on his partner to be with you, so what’s to say he wouldn’t do that to you? He may also have problems with the fact that you’ve worked as an escort – he could start obsessing about the number of men you’ve slept with, or make you feel cheap when he wants to hurt you during an argument.

Some men might be very fond of you and see no other escorts, but have no intention of leaving their wives (often for monetary or family reasons). If you’re just his mistress, don’t build up your hopes that one day he’ll leave her for you. If you’re really in too deep, you might have to stop seeing that client. It will lose you a lot of money in bookings at first, but will be a great investment for your heart.

x Diva x

Lube it Up

Posted by Diva on March 29th, 2010 | No Comments »

Hello all,

I haven’t written a proper post in a few days, so I thought I would retouch on a very important topic for escorts and sex workers. Remember when sexual health clinic used to just give you bags full of condoms when you had an appointment? Now they even dish out lubricant!

Women getting ‘wet’ is the equivalent to a man getting an erection; it shows that we’re aroused and ready for action, facilitating sexual intercourse. It makes everything feel more pleasurable, letting him slide in and out easily. However, there are several things that can stop a woman getting properly wet, even if she wants to have sex; some suffer particularly if they’re dehydrated, which might be in the mornings or after some heavy drinking. Some dry up after they have climaxed so might need some help if they want to continue having sex, and also women going through hormonal changes such as the menopause or adapting to a new method of contraception may experience problems. For escorts, they might not be sexually attracted to their clients so should always carry lubrication in these cases.

If you’re planning on having sex, keep some lube handy even if you don’t think you’ll need it. If you do happen to dry up at any point, it will make sex very uncomfortable. The friction could be painful, and certain positions may become more difficult.

Guys: don’t be offended if a woman uses lube. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t fancy you; it’s in very common usage during sex now, and it will make the sensations more pleasurable for both of you. If you criticise her, it’s as bad as a woman taunting you for not being able to keep it up! If you do have a problem with it, you probably haven’t tried using it. Once you have, you’ll be encouraging the use of lubricant!

One tip I recommend to ANYONE who wants to try a new brand of lubricant is to test it first; I once dived straight in and had a bad reaction – burning between the legs is not desirable! If it ever happens to you, get straight into a cold shower and rinse until the sting subsides.

Have fun!

x Diva x

Condoms

Posted by Diva on March 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

It’s amazing how many people manage to successfully convince themselves that they can safely have sex without using condoms. One girl said to me that her and her boyfriend use the ‘withdrawal method’, but don’t use any other contraception; for those of you who don’t know, the withdrawal method involves having unprotected sex, and the man pulls out before he ejaculates and shoots his load outside the body. There are several flaws in this plan: first of all, most men have ‘pre come’ which leaks out when he is aroused, long before he ejaculates. This could contain sperm, and could get you pregnant. Yes, the chances are greatly reduced, but it only takes one little swimmer!  Also, you can still catch STIs without a man coming inside you – the intercourse itself is enough. If a couple are faithful and have both been tested and found clean, this isn’t so bad. But for escorts and sex workers, I really wouldn’t recommend this!

Personally, I hate using condoms. It’s such a relief that now I’m married I never have to think about them. I’ll stay on the pill until we’re ready to have kids, and providing he doesn’t stray it should be perfectly safe. Believe me, I know that it feels SO much better riding bareback – no condom, skin on skin. The sensation is better for both of you, and there’s no awkward moment when you need to stop to fumble about with the wrapper. And God knows that they don’t taste good!

That said, they’re still so important if you’re having casual sex. A client may even offer you extra money to do it without, but what price can you put on catching HIV or AIDs? Is an extra £100 enough compensation for being left infertile? It’s easy to get caught in the moment and let passion take over, but keep your head screwed on.

Sorry to sound like your mum!

x Diva x

Getting Your Kicks

Posted by Diva on January 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

When you’re an escort or a sex worker, it helps to have a high sex drive. Your job really won’t be much fun of you’re never in the mood, and if you have a partner they’ll still want to make love to you after a day’s work!

Male and female orgasms are quite different. After a man has ejaculated, he usually needs to wait anywhere between 10 minutes and an hour until he can get an erection again to make himself climax. However, there’s no limit on the amount of times a woman can orgasm, whether it’s multiple or several orgasms in close proximity.

Another difference is that while men can get worn out from climaxing regularly, women’s libido increases the more she orgasms. If you go through a dry period where you abstain from sex or masturbation, this could make your sex drive drop. However if  a man abstains, he tends to get more and more horny until he’s like a dog on heat!

The bottom line is, the more sex and orgasms a woman has, the more she wants it. To enjoy yourself on the job and make yourself more eager to meet clients, make sure you keep your organ well oiled! Even if that means spending quality time with your vibrator!

Happy climaxing,

x Diva x

Feeling Frisky in Pubic

Posted by Diva on December 2nd, 2009 | No Comments »

Having sex in public is a fantasy for many people. The risk of getting caught adds to the thrill, but it’s always preferable not to get caught! Being arrested is not the best way to round off a session, so discretion is always necessary.

Escorts and sex workers get some very odd requests from clients. Those with bizarre fetishes and fantasies sometimes feel that they can’t confide to their partners because they are embarrassed, or never get comfortable enough sexually to develop a relationship with somebody. However, al fresco sex is quite a common request, being the fantasy of so many. So don’t be too shocked if someone asks you!

It’s completely understandable and acceptable to refuse this request. It is a risk, and getting caught could get you both into a lot of trouble. Speaking from experience, it’s a much easier task in the remote countryside. London is busy 24/7 and doesn’t have many places to hide – plus the police are never too far away.

I’d also recommend staying dressed, even going the whole hog with a long coat. That way it’s easier to pull yourself together quickly, or just pretend you’re making out. If you do decide to chance it, I recommend the very early hours of the morning on a weekday to reduce the risk of being seen. However much of an exhibitionist you are, reel it in for your own good!

x Diva x

Embarrassing Incidents

Posted by Diva on October 28th, 2009 | 10 Comments »

It’s happened to all of us. Those embarrassing little incidents that make you wish the ground would open and swallow you up. Especially as a sex worker, you’re completely exposed, often naked and completely vulnerable. The best you can do is to laugh it off, or act like it was supposed to happen.

Here are a few of the mishaps that I have experienced throughout my career, either personally or from a close friend.

Fanny Farts
I apologise for the crude name, but I can’t think of anything else to call them.  If you’re a guy who has not experienced this from a woman, you can’t have had many sexual encounters. And if you’re a sexually active girl who this hasn’t happened to yet – I don’t believe you!

I first discovered my body’s ability to create this unattractive noise when I was in my teens, balancing upside down on my shoulders and scissoring my legs. You can definitely feel the difference between this and the usual breaking of wind… really, your uterus is basically just a whoopee cushion. And once air gets up there, there ain’t nothing you can do about it. Most guys are familiar with this fact of life by the time they’re in their 20s, so they won’t judge you for it or make you feel bad. It happens.

The sound is worse when you’re wet, and there is one sexual position that I guarantee will make it happen. If you’re being fucked doggy style, try to keep your front half elevated. It’s all too tempting to drop your face and breasts to the pillow while pushing your bum out towards him, but that is just asking for it. Air will get pumped in, then you have to sit there and wait for it to come out again. And yes, it will be loud enough for him to hear. The same goes for fingering in this position. Just keep your chest up, arch your back and you’ll maintain your sex Goddess image.

When fanny farting does occur, don’t worry about it. It genuinely happens to everyone!

Coming On
I always know when my period is due, and never accepted appointments for that week. But sometimes Mother Nature brings her monthly gift early, when it is most unwelcome. The good news is, your period doesn’t usually gush out all at once. Although it may look and feel like a lot, the average woman only bleeds the equivalent to 2 tablespoons over the whole week. I have noticed some red streaks on the guy’s dick as he pulled out, but I managed to conceal it. Just offer to remove his condom for him or clean him up sexily – hold his eye contact so he doesn’t look down. I completely got away with it!

One girl friend of mine got away with using the line “ooh, you were a bit rough!” so he thought she had bled from the hard seeing to he’d just given her, that seemed to work too. One less fortunate friend was giving a man a lap dance in a club and left an unwelcome smear on his thigh. She was a bit embarrassed but shrugged it off, he demanded his money back.

Sometimes this is unavoidable, but it’s a fact of life. Guys – it won’t hurt you and comes right off in the shower, so don’t be babies about it.

Caught in the Act

There are several other things that may happen to you at one time or another; falling out of bed, stomachs rumbling uncontrollably, getting caught in the act… all of which can be laughed off, unless you get caught by your partner’s spouse/father, in which case it’s time to run!

Sex can be a funny old game…

x Diva x

The Importance of Lube

Posted by Diva on October 21st, 2009 | No Comments »

When you first start having sex, it’s brand new and exciting; you’re probably so wet it runs down your leg. This can keep happening throughout your life, especially if you’re a big lover of sex. But you’re unlikely to get super wet during every single encounter; sometimes you’re not in the mood, sometimes you’re slightly dehydrated or sometimes you’re just not that physically attracted to the person you’re with.

You should never be ashamed of using lubrication to help out – it’s not a diss to your partner, it just makes everything run more smoothly. It’s especially important to use lube if you’re having anal sex, as there is no natural lubrication here. Make sure you use something specifically designed for sexual acts; do not substitute it with other products such as butter or vaseline.

If you are too dry during sex, the friction can cause discomfort and leave you sore; it could also lead to problems such as cystitis. It is a much more pleasurable sensation for both parties if everything glides smoothly. It’s also wise to use lubrication of you’re playing with sex toys.

If you want to vary your routine or liven things up, you can get all kinds of lube. Flavoured (great for oral – cherry flavoured dick!), self heating, cooling with aloe vera, tingling, even glow in the dark! There’s loads of fun to be had.

I’ve tried lots of different types over the years. Durex do a fun multi pack of single sachets that are good for storage or slipping in your handbag, they’re called ‘Play Sensations’. My favourite brand is ‘ID’, such as ‘ID Glide’ or ‘ID Pleasure’. Make sure you test out a new brand before using it properly – I have a couple of friends who have made this mistake and turned out to be allergic. Nobody wants burning bits.

Enjoy the ride!

x Diva x

My Clients

Posted by Diva on October 20th, 2009 | No Comments »

The men who I have visited over the years have been a varied bunch. I can honestly say that there is a particular ‘type’ of guy who is more inclined to use escorts. I know it’s wrong to generalise or stereotype, but here are a few examples of the kind of men I’ve encountered before.

Virgins

I haven’t stumbled across many of these. Back in the days when I worked at a low cost escort agency, we would occasionally get calls from young men who have yet to discover the joys of sex. They would rarely make the call themselves; it was more likely to be from a group of friends or a hip uncle. Though I was once sent to a man who was scared about becoming a 30 year old virgin and hired me as an early birthday present to himself.

Generally, virgins are very sweet and easy to please. The young ones are very in awe of you; the 17 year old boy I met thought I was an absolute angel and wouldn’t stop gushing about how beautiful I was. I was very flattered, but didn’t let it go to my head because it was more likely to be due to the fact that he had never seen a real pair of breasts before. He laid flat on his back while I did the work, and kept his eyes wide open the whole time. He came within a minute, and seemed thoroughly satisfied with that. The older guy opted for the missionary position and seemed to be concentrating much harder. He was embarrassed to come so soon, but I reassured him and let him have another go. That time he tried doggy style – he must’ve watched enough porn in his time to pick up some tips. You can pretty much guarantee that a virgin will be an easy job though.

Married Men

I used to see a lot of clients who were married. Many of them were trapped in loveless relationships and hadn’t had sex with their wives in weeks, months or years. Most stayed together for the children’s sake, but some were just too comfortable or lazy to rock the boat and leave. These clients were usually quite experienced; some were happy with straight sex & a blow job, but others wanted to be a bit more risque. It’s quite common for men to seek out escorts and sex workers to try something they wouldn’t ask their partner for. I met men who wanted to do anal, water sports, BDSM, all sorts. It’s a bit sad that they couldn’t confide in their partners with these fantasies, but I guess I never knew those women so they might not have been accepting.

The Powerful

I encountered quite a few wealthy men, often business men. Some hired my services as a matter of convenience; they were way too busy with their career to pursue a romance, and an hour appointment that fitted into their busy schedule would satisfy all of their sexual needs. Others seemed to like the power element; the fact that they had control over the girl they saw seemed to be a real kick for them. Obviously I’ll only do what I’m comfortable with, but they often liked me to be completely submissive and do what I was told.

Loners

It’s sad but true; some guys just can’t get a girlfriend. It might be because they fell out the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down, or they could just be painfully shy. I admire these guys for having the guts to call an escort – it’s much more fun to have sex in the flesh than to have faceless cyber sex, pretending you’re someone you’re not in an internet chat room.

I found it’s a real mix with lonely men; some are too shy to take control and you have to coax them out of their shell. Others are so grateful to have a real naked woman that they get very excitable! It’s quite cute really.

So there you have it; men from all walks of life enjoy using escorts. And I don’t blame them – we’re hot!

x Diva x

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