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Love Thy Neighbour

Posted by Diva on January 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

One of the problems that I thought I’d left behind at secondary school was bitching and bullying. I’ve never been the bitchy type; I didn’t see the point of spreading rumours and making enemies. Those who used to call me a “whore” didn’t know at the time that they weren’t far off the mark where my future was concerned, but I was a good girl back then!

I had a couple of hassle free years after that when people grew up a bit and I moved to London. Here I could hang out with any age group, any gender. The only bitches now were my group of gay friends, but that was very superficial and a sign of their affection for each other!

The next time I had to deal with it was when I joined my first escort agency. It was fairly low budget and there were around 30 girls working for them; I was very obviously the ‘new girl’, but not for long because the turnover was high. But once again I had to encounter jealous, bitchy behaviour and exclusion. The worst cases were the ‘old timers’ who had been there for years, and groups of girls from the same place. For example, in that agency there were always between 5 and 10 Eastern European girls who would gang up and spread rumours about the rest of us. It’s quite sad, and unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it. Of course they want to get rid of competition so they get more bookings, but competition will always be there because it’s such a big industry.

If a client rings up for a slim brunette and you’re a busty blonde, no amount of sabotage will secure the booking for you. We’d often have to spend evenings in the waiting room at the agency, so why not make it pleasant and get along?

If you’re working at an agency like this, don’t be the bully. People will only become ‘friends’ with you because they’re scared of you. If you’re being bullied, just ignore them and rise above it. If it starts getting too intense tell the agency, but sadly there isn’t much they can do. As long as you’re reliable and enthusiastic, the agency will continue to give you preference for bookings – they don’t listen to the rumours.

Hopefully you don’t have to go through that, but just remember – you survived secondary school!

x Diva x

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