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Legitimate Escort Agencies

Posted by Diva on August 31st, 2010 | No Comments »

I’ve had a few enquiries from people just starting out in the escort industry about how to know whether or not an escort agency is legitimate. You’d be surprised at how many websites are fake, and how many are unprofessional, badly managed agencies. It’s quite simple to find out if they are actually up and running, and how respectable they are.

The first thing to do is to check the contact details of the escort agency. Phone the number to see if your call is answered, and if the phone operator sounds professional. Also try emailing them to enquire about vacancies, asking more detailed information such as the standard procedure for bookings and the rate of pay. Remember that you won’t take home the full hourly rate advertised – you’ll have to pay the agency a cut of each booking.

Respectable agencies will provide their escorts with a driver to take them to and from bookings; the driver should stay outside for the duration to make sure you’re safe with your client. If you’re told to make your own way using public transport, you should steer clear!

A good agency will also ask to see your documents before hiring you. You’ll need to prove that you’re over 18 years old, and that you can work in the UK legally. If you can’t, I’m afraid you won’t be able to get a job with a respectable escort agency.

There are plenty of genuine agencies who don’t ask for any money upfront to advertise on their website; they only take a percentage once they have secured you a booking. They should never tell you what services you have to offer a client; this is up to you. You should only do what you are comfortable with, and not let anyone push your limits or control you.

Good luck out there,

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

Accepting Incalls

Posted by Diva on July 1st, 2010 | No Comments »

As I never accepted incalls during my time as an escort, this information is second hand. I have a few friends in the sex industry and have talked with them at length about their experiences, some of which were very similar to mine and some that were quite different.

An incall is when an escort invites clients into her some. There are some escort agencies that own flats and arrange for clients to meet their girls there; this is much safer, because then clients don’t know your real address. I’ve heard stories about clients who became stalkers, starting off with gifts and flowers, but their behaviour turning more dark when their advances were rejected. There’s also the risk of clients turning up at your flat without making a booking – you could be entertaining friends or family at any time, so this is always a problem.

If you do choose to accept incalls at your home working as an independent escort, it is completely legal. Accepting money for sex in the UK has always been legal – there are just a lot of laws around prostitution that can make it difficult. If you’re working alone in a flat, it’s also legal. Any more sex workers in one place is considered to be a brothel, which is against the law.

However, being completely alone when your clients visit is very dangerous. If you cannot afford any kind of security and you don’t have a flatmate who is aware of your profession, make sure you take whatever precautions you can. Keep a rape alarm close by, and if possible do some self defence classes so that you can protect yourself if necessary. You should always make sure that someone else knows your client’s details and when they are visiting, even if it’s just a friend. After you’ve finished your appointment, let that friend know you’re safe.

If you’re unsure about a client at all, don’t invite him into your home. Any sign of drug or alcohol abuse, short temper or violence should sound alarm bells in your head- no amount of money is worth putting yourself at risk.

x Diva x

Reputation

Posted by Diva on June 29th, 2010 | No Comments »

In my time working as an escort, I noticed that some of the low budget escort agencies didn’t see many repeat customers; their service was pretty bad, so they relied on new customers all the time. This is sustainable up to a point because of the sheer number of clients in London, but they would make so much more money if their clients returned.

Agencies don’t have much control over the girls once they’ve gone to see a client (in fact, it would be illegal for them to try to control the girls). For this reason, escorts are free to do whatever they want, often bringing agencies into disrepute. The most common reasons are that they are rude and impolite, unclean or demand extra cash for a kiss, for oral sex etc. It’s a shame, but there’s not much that can be done about it.

As an escort, independent or with an agency, all you can do is earn a good reputation for yourself. If you can get regular clients, you’ll be ensuring yourself regular work and more money, rather than relying on unstable or infrequent bookings. To do this, you need to give your client value for their money; that means staying for the full length of time you’ve booked them, and making them feel good about themselves. Agree a fixed price before the booking, and don’t ask for more; if you do well, they’re likely to tip you and book you again – that’s better than scoring an extra £20 for a snog.

Escorts can change their names and photos, but if you build yourself a good reputation, the clients will come to you.

x Diva x

Compassionate Leave

Posted by Diva on February 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

Being a sex worker usually means you get the final say in when you work. Some escort agencies can be pushy about you coming in, but unless you take the piss by only waltzing in once a fortnight, you get to decide which days or nights suit you (if you want complete control then working independently is the best bet).

Although you can feel obliged to work if you’ve recently had time off, there’s no point if you’re in a bad frame of mind. Just like any other career, compassionate leave may be necessary if you receive some bad news or go through a traumatic experience. Even if you are physically well, you won’t be able to do your job properly if your mind is somewhere else and you’re feeling emotionally fragile.

I once tried to meet a client when I’d had some bad news; I thought I could put on a front and act my way through it, but I was too delicate and the appointment was a disaster. Clients hire escorts to make themselves feel good, so don’t go if you’re likely to make them feel bad!

If you are with a strict escort agency, they may not sound very sympathetic to you asking for ‘compassionate leave’. But stand your ground; working regardless could result on you losing a potentially regular client.

x Diva x

Love Thy Neighbour

Posted by Diva on January 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

One of the problems that I thought I’d left behind at secondary school was bitching and bullying. I’ve never been the bitchy type; I didn’t see the point of spreading rumours and making enemies. Those who used to call me a “whore” didn’t know at the time that they weren’t far off the mark where my future was concerned, but I was a good girl back then!

I had a couple of hassle free years after that when people grew up a bit and I moved to London. Here I could hang out with any age group, any gender. The only bitches now were my group of gay friends, but that was very superficial and a sign of their affection for each other!

The next time I had to deal with it was when I joined my first escort agency. It was fairly low budget and there were around 30 girls working for them; I was very obviously the ‘new girl’, but not for long because the turnover was high. But once again I had to encounter jealous, bitchy behaviour and exclusion. The worst cases were the ‘old timers’ who had been there for years, and groups of girls from the same place. For example, in that agency there were always between 5 and 10 Eastern European girls who would gang up and spread rumours about the rest of us. It’s quite sad, and unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it. Of course they want to get rid of competition so they get more bookings, but competition will always be there because it’s such a big industry.

If a client rings up for a slim brunette and you’re a busty blonde, no amount of sabotage will secure the booking for you. We’d often have to spend evenings in the waiting room at the agency, so why not make it pleasant and get along?

If you’re working at an agency like this, don’t be the bully. People will only become ‘friends’ with you because they’re scared of you. If you’re being bullied, just ignore them and rise above it. If it starts getting too intense tell the agency, but sadly there isn’t much they can do. As long as you’re reliable and enthusiastic, the agency will continue to give you preference for bookings – they don’t listen to the rumours.

Hopefully you don’t have to go through that, but just remember – you survived secondary school!

x Diva x

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Getting in the Moment

Posted by Diva on January 8th, 2010 | No Comments »

From years working in the sex industry, I know what it can be like to be with someone you’re not in the slightest bit attracted to. I know some girls who just lie there with their eyes shut waiting for it to be over, but that sounds to me like it would be pretty unpleasant for both parties involved. If you hate it that much, don’t be an escort!

Obviously, you don’t always get to pick and choose your clients. You have the right to walk out at any point if you feel uncomfortable with a client, but if you drop every booking because they’re not that good looking, you won’t get very far! Escort agencies certainly don’t have much patience with this, and you’ll end up wasting a lot of your own time too.

What I always did when meeting a man was look for qualities that I liked and focused on them. Does he have nice eyes? A broad back? A charming smile? There’s usually a redeeming feature somewhere, even if it’s not immediately obvious. Concentrate on that and you’ll find yourself warming to him. Tell him even – a compliment will boost his ego and make him a better lover! If you’ve looked good and hard but still can’t see past his unfortunate exterior, focus on his personality. Is he gentlemanly? Witty? Intelligent? Powerful? Any one of these things can be a strong aphrodisiac.

Most of the time, I was able to see something in my client that made me like him, and that made the whole experience more pleasant for both of us. But if that really hasn’t worked for you and you find yourself recoiling, feel free to close your eyes. But instead of praying for it to be over, imagine it’s George Clooney! After all, it is a girl’s prerogative to fantasize…

x Diva x

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The Right Places

Posted by Diva on December 14th, 2009 | No Comments »

As an escort, I was always aspiring to earn more money and to be considered a ‘high class escort’. Some say that if you start out at the bottom end (with budget escort agencies), it’s impossible to break the cycle and work your way up. Others say that you need experience, and like any other industry you have to start at the bottom.

There’s probably some truth in both of these statements; not all high class escorts come from the same background. I worked for a few different escort agencies before going independent, and I did manage to charge a lot more than I had earned through agencies. But you need to decide what your goals are, and work out a plan of how to reach them. If you’re determined enough, you’ll get there.

One of the first things you need to remember is to be seen in the right places. If you’re aspiring to be considered a high class working girl, there’s no point hanging around on street corners in Brixton to get extra business. You have to look and dress the part, and be seen in the kind of places you want to associate yourself with. Think Knightsbridge and Mayfair, at designer stores, casinos and expensive wine bars. If you’re looking hot enough, you won’t need to spend your hard earned cash; the men will come to you.

To pull this off, you need to believe you can. It is well worth investing in a few key designer pieces; Primark and PVC won’t cut it in these joints. Just tell yourself that you are worth the hundreds or thousands you aspire to make, and carry yourself that way. If you believe it, everyone else will too!

x Diva xrich-girl