Bearing the Pain

Posted by Diva on February 26th, 2010 | No Comments »

I used to get told that a wax would hurt less every time. I tried it many times, but the heat ripping away from my most delicate areas never quite became bearable. I like to have a Brazilian – everything gone except a small strip. I used to just shave, but then you have the risk of shaving rash, and 2 days later it’s already stubbly again.

I earned a nice enough living as an escort, but not so lavish that I could afford laser hair removal treatment. What I wouldn’t give to be bald from the neck down! Life would be so much easier. But I’m not, and I have dark hair, so my legs and privates must be tended to.

Not long ago, I decided to give hair removal cream another try. I had done it a couple of years before, and remember not being overly impressed with the results. But perhaps if I left it on a little longer… it seemed worth a try. And so I bought the Veet kit, much cheaper than a wax at just under £6.00. It specifies that it is to be used on the bikini line and nowhere else on the body… but that isn’t very clear! What about underneath? Is it safe to use on my outer labia? Because they need to be smooth.

10 minutes later, and I could tell you that the answer is NO! Come on Veet, draw me a diagram or something! It stung and burned, and even then it wasn’t left smooth. Kind of patchy and stubbly, having to be touched up the next day with a razor.

Is wax the only answer? Am I destined to live a life bearing the pain? Please let me know if any of you have tips for hair removal, I’m still searching…

x Diva x

That Moment

Posted by Diva on February 25th, 2010 | No Comments »

I’d say that the climax is most people’s favourite part of sex. The big ‘O’, the release. But I have another part that’s my favourite: that moment when a man first enters you (provided that you’re nice and wet). I’ve been sexually active for quite a few years now, and it still makes me gasp a little. It’s even better if you’ve had a long build up or a tease so that you’re practically begging for it.

For me, it doesn’t matter what position you’re in when he first puts it in. Even if you’re completely in control of the situation, even dominating, you can’t help but give yourself over to that feeling, that moment. I suppose it helps that my husband’s rather well endowed so he fills me right up – it’s like being a virgin all over again every time!

When I was working as an escort, I wasn’t always attracted to my clients. They came in all different shapes and sizes, but I could always appreciate that moment along with them. Judging by the way most men’s eyes roll back in their head, I’d say it’s pretty amazing for them too!

x Diva x

Breathe…

Posted by Diva on February 23rd, 2010 | No Comments »

Ok, I’m a little bit calmer now. Apologies for the outburst, was inundated by futile attempts!

Today I’m taking some time off to relax, very important, whatever industry you’re in.

x Diva x

Grrrrrrrr!

Posted by Diva on February 22nd, 2010 | No Comments »

I’m very annoyed with whoever is automatically spamming my site. I moderate ALL comments, so you’ll just get deleted without ever being published. And thanks to being inundated with your crap, I’ve now accidentally deleted some lovely comments from genuine readers who are contributing to my blog.

Just please bugger off, you’re doing yourself no favours!

DIVA

Staying in Control

Posted by Diva on February 22nd, 2010 | 1 Comment »

Not all sex workers are naturally dominant. Of course there are plenty who specialise in this area, but I’ve heard of many escorts who just lie back and think of England when they’re with a client. From personal experience, I would say that a large proportion of men like women to be assertive in bed, even if you’re not introducing any BDSM. A girl who knows what she wants is very sexy, so it’s great to show this sexually.

If you’re not quite sure how to go about this, there are plenty of ways to get started. Appointments usually last a minimum of an hour, so you have plenty of time to tease before doing the deed. Start by flashing a bit of flesh to get their imagination going; perhaps do a Sharon Stone by uncrossing your legs, maybe lean forward to expose some cleavage. Be the one to initiate kissing or touching, stopping when they start to get too carried away. Give them just enough to keep them going, but leave them begging for more.

Once you get in bed, climb on top and straddle them to show your client who’s boss; pin their arms by their side or above their head while you work some magic with your lips. I like to kiss and lick slowly down their body, but just when they think you’re going in for the kill, tease a bit longer by concentrating inside their thighs where it’s still sensitive. By the time you take them into your mouth or inside you, they’ll be so relieved and grateful that your client will feel forever indebted to you!

I may have been called a cock tease in my time, but they all worshipped me by the time I left!

x Diva x

Working on a Hangover

Posted by Diva on February 19th, 2010 | No Comments »

Yes, we’ve all done it. Unless you’re t-total or have remarkable will power, there will come a time when you have to work on a heavy hangover. Clients often offer you drinks throughout the evening, and it can be easy to get carried away with a fine wine. There are a few things you can do to minimise the pounding head and nausea the following morning, as long as you plan ahead.

If you know you’ll be having a tipple later, make sure you eat properly first. Drinking on an empty stomach gets you drunk much faster, and if someone has paid good money for an escort they don’t want to be holding your hair back while you’re sick! Sip your drinks slowly; if you drink your first one quickly, it’s likely that your glass will be topped up pronto. Also stick to that old rule of not mixing your drinks – stick to either wine or spirits.

Dehydration is what makes your hangovers feel so awful, so drink water throughout the night. Alcohol may be a liquid, but it does dehydrate you. Try to drink a whole glass of water before you go to sleep. Your body will need to be replenished in the morning, so take multivitamins (especially vitamin C) in the morning. Eat a balanced breakfast too, even if you don’t feel hungry. You’ll be glad later in the day!

There are loads of different hang over cures out there, but you need to remember that alcohol poisons your body so it’s always going to affect you. I just follow the tips above to make myself feel as human as possible!

x Diva x

Double Life

Posted by Diva on February 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Living in London can certainly keep you busy. Although some do it loud and proud, many sex workers keep their job discreet so they end up living a kind of secret double life. It can become difficult to juggle the two, always having to come up with an alibi for when you’re out on a booking.

I dealt with this by confiding in my closest friends, those who I trusted and knew wouldn’t judge me. The most important are those who you live with (if you have house mates); they will be the ones who ask where you’re going, who notice you creep in during the dead of night. It will be difficult to maintain a lie and could make you feel awful, so think carefully about who you shack up with. A lot of escorts I know live with each other so there are no questions asked. Be careful if you do incalls though – if there are any more than two of you in a flat or house, it could be considered a brothel and you’d run into big problems with the law. You don’t want to upset the neighbours!

Unless your parents are extremely open minded or worked in the sex industry themselves, it’s not a good idea to confide in them. Ultimately you know them best and it’s down to your judgement, but they will be overprotective and worry about you – personally I never thought it was worth it.

Boyfriends are another thing… don’t tell him unless you absolutely trust that he’ll keep your secret. You should also be prepared for him to reject you – many people can’t deal with this kind of information. If it’s someone you want to settle down with or move in with, you will need to tell the truth and accept the consequences. They might ask you to stop, they might be ok with it. Again, this one is your call!

A double life can be hard, but you can’t deny it’s exciting…

x Diva x

Sex Toys

Posted by Diva on February 15th, 2010 | No Comments »

If you are a sex worker who visits clients, it’s a good idea to have at least a basic knowledge of what sex toys are on the market. Some may request that you bring them to appointments, either to use on you or them. You should practise with them by yourself before using them with a client – it’s the kind of homework that you won’t mind doing!

The most common sex toy is a dildo or vibrator; these come in all shapes and sizes, colours and textures. Most are shaped like a penis, sometimes curving up slightly at the end so they can hit your G spot (on the front wall of your vagina). It’s not uncommon for men to feel threatened or jealous if your vibrator is bigger than their own manhood; it may sound silly, but men are often insecure about the size of their penis – it’s how they measure their worth sometimes! If you’re not sure what they want, take a selection of sizes and start off with the smallest.

If you’re taking sex toys for him, make sure they’re used as intended; anal dildos always have extra material at the base to prevent it getting lost inside, unlike those intended for vaginal use.

One of the most important things to remember is to clean your sex toys thoroughly; it’s not advisable to share them, but there are plenty of products on the market to keep your props hygienic. Never put anything inside your vagina after it has been in his or your anus – this can cause infection. If you’re planning on swapping holes, use a condom on the toy and change it when you swap.

Be safe, go steady!

x Diva x

Natural Remedies

Posted by Diva on February 10th, 2010 | No Comments »

For most jobs, getting ill is a real hindrance. Escorting requires a fair amount of physical exertion (to put it politely), and nobody wants to meet with a woman who’s pale, snotty or clammy.

I’d be the first one to pop a couple of paracetamol when I have a headache, but I’m also a big believer in natural remedies. The first rule of good health is pretty simple: look after your body. If you fill it with crap (drink, drugs, fast food), chances are you’re going to feel run down a lot of the time. You need sleep and exercise to stay healthy. Make sure you get plenty of vitamin C (found in oranges). The days of scurvy may be over, but this boosts your immune system and will help your body fight little viruses that try to take hold.

When I was younger I used to regularly suffer from colds and sore throats. Honey and lemon is a classic remedy that is still copied by most medicines; I dissolved mine in boiling water and drank it as a tea. For sore throats, you can also add thyme (boiled in a pot like tea leaves). Thyme has been used as a medicine for decades, and has great effects on your respiratory system. It’s also beneficial for asthma sufferers.

For your throat, boil some sage. Instead of drinking it, gargle this to soothe your throat – it is a natural antiseptic. Ingesting sage is also said to be good for bloating and gas.

Some are more obvious, such as using oil for dry skin. There are remedies all around you, so if you’re looking for a natural pick me up, do a quick search online and you’ll find loads of ideas!

x Diva x

Party Girls

Posted by Diva on February 8th, 2010 | No Comments »

When you start working in the sex industry, you soon become familiar with all of the jargon. It’s a good idea to learn what some of the phrases mean before going to meet a client, just in case they’ve asked for something you’re not prepared to do but you didn’t understand the ‘code’!

One of the most common is GFE which means girlfriend experience, where the client will expect intimate kissing and cuddling. A Levels has nothing to do with your schooling; this refers to anal sex. OWO means oral sex without a condom, and CIM in come in mouth – you’ll probably be expected to swallow.

One phrase that is sometimes misinterpreted is ‘party girl’. If a client requests one of these, you won’t just need to dance like Beyonce; this usually refers to an escort who is willing to take drugs with the client, drink alcohol and stay up all night with them. Cocaine is the most commonly shared, but you may also come across ecstasy/MDMA or Ketamine and marajuana towards the end of the night. Of course these drugs are illegal, but if you do decide to participate make sure you know your own limits and stay in control of yourself. Chances you don’t know where the client gets their supplies from so it could be dangerous; make sure you have a friend or agency who know exactly where you are and who you’re with.

Whatever you decide to do, do it in moderation and be safe!

x Diva x

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