Christmas

Posted by Diva on December 18th, 2009 | No Comments »

I’m not going to talk to you about sex today, or escorting or BDSM or penises. I just want to wish you a Merry Christmas! My husband and I are going away this weekend and actually escaping from the families for the first time ever! A bit of piece and quiet before we add any sprogs to our family (some time in the future…)

You probably won’t hear from me until I’m back in the New Year, so have a wonderful Christmas and I hope you get lots of lovely presents!

x Diva x

The Perfect Woman

Posted by Diva on December 17th, 2009 | No Comments »

The world has changed a lot over the centuries, especially attitudes towards women. Now we’re more sexually liberated, we have equal rights to men (in most countries) and we’re free to express ourselves however we like.

Many modern men will claim to love an independent woman and will support her decision to go out and earn her own cash; however, a great deal of men I’ve met still have the fantasy of a ‘perfect woman’ in traditional terms. They secretly crave a constantly smiling and never complaining lady in a pretty dress and an apron, with perfectly set hair and a tray of baked cookies in their hands. Many would deny it, but I’ll bet you they would trade their x box for a wife like that. There’s a reason ‘Stepford Wives’ was given a remake – the principles still apply today!

Luckily for us, this secret desire can usually be fulfilled with a bit of role play rather than a complete life style overhaul. During my time working as an escort in London, I encountered a few married men whose wives were driven career women. At first that kind of power and determination is a huge turn on, but after years of it these guys had ended up feeling quite emasculated and craved a bit of tradition. I learned to play the perfect lady in their eyes; feminine, homely, sweet and adoring. I definitely couldn’t keep it up all the time, but for an hourly rate it wasn’t too much to ask!

I imagine that many wives would object to being asked to behave in this way, even if it is just for one night of role play. But I don’t mind boosting a man’s ego – he’s much better in the sack when he feels like the man of the house!

x Diva x

Feeling Full

Posted by Diva on December 16th, 2009 | No Comments »

It’s not uncommon for an escort to go out for dinner with her date, then back to his room to steam things up a bit. I’m sure you’ve already figured this out for yourself, but be careful not to eat too much! Trying to have sex on a full stomach is far from pleasant – worst case scenario, you could end up bringing your dinner during the throes of passion. Not desirable!

It’s best to forward plan if there’s going to be food involved. Don’t starve yourself beforehand; this will make you more likely to gorge and overeat. Have a snack to keep you going, then go for something light like salad at dinner. Don’t order a big meal then pick at it and leave most of it – it’s quite a turn off for men when a girl just pushes food around her plate. He could even consider it rude if he’s paying. Guys like a healthy appetite.

Also, to avoid excruciating embarrassment, don’t choose foods that are likely to make you gassy. You know your own body best, but things like soup, vegetables and pulses can all have this most unwelcome effect.

If your date’s ready to steam things up but you’re still feeling bloated, encourage him to take things slowly. Bide your time by giving him a massage or a gentle blow job. When you feel ready for another stuffing, choose a position where you can control how deep inside you he goes. The best way is going girl on top – then it’s entirely up to you how much you take. If he’s thrusting into you and he’s well endowed, it will be very uncomfortable and could feel like you’re being punched in the stomach. Avoid deep penetration positions such as doggy style, as these are likely to make you feel sick of you’re still full.

My best advice would be to eat afterwards – you’re both likely to be hungry after all that work!

x Diva x

His Manhood

Posted by Diva on December 15th, 2009 | No Comments »

Men are very sensitive about their penises. Although it’s not true, they still have this fixed idea that bigger is better, so if you let on that a previous lover was more well endowed, he will feel completely inadequate. It’s best not to mention previous lovers at all; even if you tell your current squeeze that he is bigger than so-and-so, he will then think that you judge purely on size.

If he is remotely above average in the size stakes, tell him. With wide eyes, gush about how big he is – he’ll get a kick from it, even if he acts modest. If he is below average, don’t mention his size at all. Concentrate on complimenting his body, his fellatio skills or something else that really turns him. Men generally need to feel good about themselves to get horny, so make them feel good about themselves. Even if you have to make it up, boost their ego. Don’t be too obvious about your fibbing – they’ll see right through you if you over exaggerate.

To be more ambiguous but still buck them up, say things like “that feels so good” or “I love the way you touch me”. It will spur him on to try harder, making sex better for you!

x Diva x

The Right Places

Posted by Diva on December 14th, 2009 | No Comments »

As an escort, I was always aspiring to earn more money and to be considered a ‘high class escort’. Some say that if you start out at the bottom end (with budget escort agencies), it’s impossible to break the cycle and work your way up. Others say that you need experience, and like any other industry you have to start at the bottom.

There’s probably some truth in both of these statements; not all high class escorts come from the same background. I worked for a few different escort agencies before going independent, and I did manage to charge a lot more than I had earned through agencies. But you need to decide what your goals are, and work out a plan of how to reach them. If you’re determined enough, you’ll get there.

One of the first things you need to remember is to be seen in the right places. If you’re aspiring to be considered a high class working girl, there’s no point hanging around on street corners in Brixton to get extra business. You have to look and dress the part, and be seen in the kind of places you want to associate yourself with. Think Knightsbridge and Mayfair, at designer stores, casinos and expensive wine bars. If you’re looking hot enough, you won’t need to spend your hard earned cash; the men will come to you.

To pull this off, you need to believe you can. It is well worth investing in a few key designer pieces; Primark and PVC won’t cut it in these joints. Just tell yourself that you are worth the hundreds or thousands you aspire to make, and carry yourself that way. If you believe it, everyone else will too!

x Diva x

Moral Issues

Posted by Diva on December 11th, 2009 | No Comments »

Many people have moral or ethical issues with sex work. The sad thing is, because so many bad things happen within the industry such as violence, rape and trafficking, all of the willing, happy sex workers are lumped into the same category of ‘evil’.

One of the saddest things I’ve come across is when women working as escorts have a problem with what they do morally, but feel like they have no other choice. Often, women who have been brought up in traditional or religious backgrounds feel that what they are doing is inherently wrong and will never be comfortable with it. Others are told it’s dirty or wicked. If you are not comfortable with sex work, you should not be doing it. I know that it can be difficult to break the habit once you start, and it becomes a lifestyle for you. If you’re being forced to sell sex against your will, do whatever you can to get out. Ask for police protection, or go to a woman’s support group such as http://www.womenssupportproject.co.uk/ for advice. I’ve never been in a horrible situation, so I’m afraid I’m not the best person to advise you.

There are other ways to make money, even if they don’t seem as quick and easy. In the long run, it’s worth taking home a bit less money for your own peace of mind. If you have moral issues with sex work, they’re unlikely to ever go away.

Good luck,

x Diva x

Detachment

Posted by Diva on December 10th, 2009 | No Comments »

It can be all too easy to become attached to a regular client. You see him every week, he pays you compliments, buys you gifts and treats you like a lady. It’s almost like having a boyfriend!

However nice your clients may be, it’s important to stay emotionally detached from them. Unless you truly think they’re the one and you’re willing to give up your whole way of life for them, it can become awkward, dangerous and difficult. If you open up to a client and give him preferential treatment, he could start falling for you. Take it from me – this is not a romantic scenario. He will want you all to himself, and begin to get jealous of you seeing your other clients.

If you work with an escort agency, never give out your personal details. That includes your phone number, email and address (if you only do outcalls). If you’re an independent escort, have a separate phone and email address for business. That way, if you do get any trouble with a stalker client you have a way to cut him off without disrupting your life too much.

Just remember, your dates with clients are not the same thing as dates when you’re looking for love. Many sex workers have a completely different persona for when they’re working; it’s like a performance. I think this is a great way to stay detached from clients.

Let me know what works for you!

x Diva x

For the Guys

Posted by Diva on December 9th, 2009 | No Comments »

Now I know that my blog is mostly advice for sex workers and escorts, but chances are I have the odd male reader who has an interest in the industry.

Of course, you already know exactly what you’re doing, but just to recap, here’s how you find a girl’s G Spot.

Inside her vagina, there’s a rough, spongy patch of skin about 2 inches up and on the front wall. That’s the spot. Some women like this to be stimulated, others just prefer attention on their clitoris. In case you’ve momentarily forgotten where that is, just have a look. Above her vaginal lips, there’s a little smooth button hidden just inside – you can see it if you gently pull her lips apart. Best to have a peek during oral sex so she doesn’t just feel like she’s being examined.

Stimulate these two areas with care, and you will hopefully experience the joy of the female orgasm.

x Diva x

Winter Waistlines

Posted by Diva on December 8th, 2009 | No Comments »

It’s a problem for every man and woman who celebrates Christmas: expanding waistlines. Piling on a few more pounds for insulation might be fine for some people, but for escorts and sex workers it can lose you work. We’re expected to look perfect all the time, so a bulge around the middle is frowned upon.

Cold weather often makes you want to eat more, especially hot or stodgy food. Salads might be fine in the heat of summer, but winter is all about roast dinners, pies and stews. Many people also reduce the amount of exercise they do during  the colder months too, cutting out outdoor activities such as walking, skating and jogging.

It’s a good idea to prepare yourself in the autumn, rather than panicking a week before Christmas and trying to starve yourself. Any kind of crash diet will only make you more likely to slip up and gorge on something naughty. Instead, maintain a balanced diet throughout the month but up your exercise slightly. If you need some encouragement, find a friend to go to the gym with you or buy some exercise DVDs to do at home.

You should still treat yourself at Christmas, just watch the amount of alcohol you consume because that can pile on calories. Also, don’t have seconds unless you’re still hungry and be careful of snacks that are easy to pick at like chocolates and nuts. Mothers have a habit of leaving them all over the house!

Good luck,

x Diva x

Dressing Up

Posted by Diva on December 7th, 2009 | No Comments »

I don’t know about you, but dressing up is one of my favourite things. I rarely turn down an invitation to a fancy dress party, and Halloween is always a perfect excuse. There are some traditional outfits that turn men on, and as an escort it can be really fun to surprise your client with one of these. You can use role play too to enhance your character. The most popular ones are a nurse, secretary, school girl, cheerleader and police woman. High street stores like Ann Summers always have these in stock, so whether it’s for a special occasion or just because you feel like doing something different, surprise your man with a kinky costume.

Seasonal celebrations are a great excuse to dress up. At Easter I get out my bunny ears and squeezable tail, and at Christmas I wear my fur trimmed red negligee for a naughty Mrs Claus costume. It always gets a great response from guys, and even if your chosen outfit isn’t their particular fantasy they will still love the effort you’ve gone to and get off on the fact that you must be a bad girl!

x Diva x

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