A Healthy Balance

Posted by Diva on September 1st, 2010 | No Comments »

When you’re a sex worker, it can be easy to let it become your whole life. The money is good so turning down jobs seems foolish, but before you know it you could find yourself working every night. I’ve always thought that it’s important to keep a balance between this and ‘real life’ – it is only a job, after all!

One way to do this is to limit yourself to a certain amount of days/bookings per week. This way you can be more flexible; working Monday – Friday means you might miss out on a great weekend booking, but making yourself available for any 5 days of the week allows you to make the most out of your work and your social life.

Keeping a separate phone and email address for escort work helps you to separate it from your normal life; there’s no chance of a message from a client being mixed up next to one from your Dad! Most sex workers wish to keep their profession private, and this is the best way to achieve this.

Just like any other kind of worker, you need to take holidays. It is more difficult for self employed people as you won’t make any money during this time, but if you budget properly throughout the year there’s no reason why you can’t have time off. It will keep you sane!

x Diva x

Thank you!

Posted by Diva on August 18th, 2010 | No Comments »

After my last little rant, some genuine readers have got in touch with me, and I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate it. Even if I’m only helping out one sex worker, it makes writing this blog worth it! I’ve been out of the scene for over a year now, but as far as I know everything works the same way… please let me know if there’s anything you’d like me to look into that I haven’t touched on yet.

x Diva x

Stupid Spam

Posted by Diva on August 17th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

Do any real people read this blog? I find that I’m just inundated with spam comments all the time. It’s a bore.

Sod off spammers, roll up readers.

x Diva x

Understanding Your Industry

Posted by Diva on August 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Imagine being an escort who gets bought dinner in fancy restaurants, accompanies rich men to social events and exclusive parties, without having to offer any sexual services. It’s practically the perfect job for any pretty girl who enjoys an active social life; so many young women are eager to become an escort so that they can live this dream. Sadly, it’s not a reality for many people. Don’t you think we’d all be doing it if it was that easy?!

Of course, not all men want to pay for sex. Some genuinely want a female companion for a social occasion, so they will pay for an escort from a reputable agency. However, I’m sure that the same girl has performed sexual services for 90% of her other clients! Agencies are not allowed to advertise that sex is for sale as this is illegal in the UK, so you’ll find that it’s only insinuated on most websites. If you still think it’s all innocent, take a look at the photos: girls with their breasts on display, sticking their bottoms towards you in a naughty outfit. I’m not criticising these girls in any way as I was an escort of this kind myself, but do you really think they’re just offering some company at your work’s Christmas party?

Most escort agencies offer sex, even if it doesn’t say so specifically on their website. To think that you can join this agency and not offer any sexual services is very naive; yes, you’re well within your right to say no, but the client is also within his right to never book you again, and the agency are within their right to not send any more bookings your way if you leave a trail of dissatisfied clients who you’ve said no to.

Be sensible about it if you decide to become an escort; do your research and make sure you know exactly what it is you’re getting into. If  I’m completely wrong and there are agencies who offer social companionship only, please do correct me!

Eating Light

Posted by Diva on August 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

Unless you cater for clients with a love for larger women, it’s important to stay in shape as a sex worker, and this means eating sensibly. I always envied the girls who were lucky enough to eat whatever they liked and stayed slim; some just have higher metabolisms than others. I had to work out to keep my size 10 shape, though I’ve relaxed into a comfortable 12 since quitting escorting.

I can’t give you too much advice here – everyone knows their own body and what size they’re comfortable being. However, I can recommend that you don’t eat too heavily in the hour before a booking – have you tried having sex on a full stomach? Nightmare! The trouble often lies when a client takes you out for dinner and then back to his hotel. You can get carried away with divine menus (especially when someone else is paying), filling yourself up on the finest lobster or duck. You don’t start regretting your decision until you realise that you’re about to get filled up a second time over…

Try to remember to eat lightly if you’ll be having sex later. Otherwise it will be uncomfortable for you, and could even make you feel sick – the last thing you want when you’re on an appointment. Heart burn, indigestion and gas are not the qualities that sell you as an escort!

If you tend to forget, you could try my trick of wearing a skin tight outfit – you’ll be more aware of bloating which will remind you not to over eat. If it’s too late, you may just need to stall him for a bit (assuming there’s still enough time). With any luck, he’ll be too full too and extend your booking. If that seems out of the question, all you can do is choose positions that don’t squash your stomach. If you’re self conscious of it, try bending over slightly while he takes you from behind – sexy and flattering!

Good luck,

x Diva x

Temporary Intimacy

Posted by Diva on August 4th, 2010 | No Comments »

A lot of guys are looking for a GFE when they hire an escort (a girlfriend experience). It’s our job to make them feel like the centre of our world, as if we really want to be there with them and are not just doing it for the money. For the actresses among us, this isn’t hard – but there are plenty of girls who find it difficult to fake emotion without actually getting attached, or keeping it separate from their private lives.

If you’re in a relationship and you’re working as an escort, it’s a good idea to have something that differentiates the sex between you and your clients to your relations with your partner. Some girls won’t allow themselves to climax with clients, some won’t kiss on the lips and some think of themselves as a different person entirely when they’re working. It can be a mental separation, even if everything physical is the same.

Some things put the client off right away; although it might feel too intimate for you to make eye contact, this is an important part of a GFE. If you do choose to offer this service, the client will expect a lot of tactility and kissing. Just remember that it doesn’t need to mean the same thing to you as it does with your lover – it’s all about your frame of mind.

If you really can’t separate these feelings and it makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you should consider whether or not this is the right line of work for you. Some girls only choose to escort while they are single, some continue when they are married with children – it’s all about what feels right for you.

x Diva x

Staying Anonymous

Posted by Diva on August 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

Understandably, many people working in the sex industry wish to keep their identities private. Unless your friends and family are very open minded and understanding, they may not be supportive of your decision to be a sex worker. There are several measures you can take to remain anonymous, however none of them are 100% fool proof; if you’re meeting clients who you’ve never seen before, you never know who they might be. That’s the risk that you have to take if you want to make money in this industry!

First of all, avoid looking for business in your immediate area; for example, I used to live in North London but only advertised in West and Central. It’s a small step, but at least you’re less likely to bump into your neighbours. It’s also a good idea to avoid bringing clients back to your home, otherwise those living with or near you will become suspicious about the amount of traffic coming through your door.

Of course, change your name. Some escorts stick with the same working name throughout their career to build up a good reputation, others change it on occasion to make themselves more difficult to find. Work on a first name only basis and don’t reveal your real name to any clients. Get a separate email address and mobile phone to use for work; this will avoid any slip ups and keep your sex work separate from the rest of your life.

In photos, it’s true that those who show their faces get the most bookings. However, you can still have nice, professional pictures with your face concealed; try a Venetian style mask, angles away from your face or using photo shop afterwards to obscure your face. The less you cover, the more aesthetically pleasing it will look; make sure your hair is visible and preferably your face shape.

Remember to conceal any scars, birthmarks or tattoos that might give away your identity; again, this can be done using photo shop.

Fingers crossed that you never bump into anyone you know while you’re working!

x Diva x

About my Blog

Posted by Diva on July 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

For those of you who have just stumbled across my blog, I thought I should tell you a little bit about why I’m here. You’ll probably be able to work it out from scrolling down my previous posts; I provide advice and information for anyone working in the sex industry. As an ex escort, this is the area I’m most knowledgeable about. I’m still in touch with several working girls, and from what I’ve heard, things haven’t changed that much in the last 2 years!

This blog is for escorts, doms and subs, exotic dancers, porn stars, web cam and phone line workers. It could also be of interest to any customers who use the sex industry and want to know the tricks of the trade. If there are any topics that I haven’t yet touched on, please get in contact and ask. If I don’t know much about it myself, I’m bound to know someone who does! I’m hoping that this will help anyone new to the industry, giving a bit of insight.

Enjoy the read,

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

How to Wear Your Hair

Posted by Diva on July 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

You’ve probably already gathered that my blog is all about escorts and sex workers, so you may have also cottoned on that I’m not talking about the hair on your head in this post. Pubic hair is very important – you have to maintain it well if you want to be successful in the sex industry.

For men, it’s much easier; most choose to just trim their hair with scissors or clippers, keeping it short and neat. Trimming your hair back can actually make your member look bigger, so it’s an added bonus to keep on top of it! Also, if a woman is giving you a blow job, she doesn’t want to get pubes in her mouth. Some men choose to shave it off completely; those brave enough to have the ’sack & crack’ wax should be commended! I can imagine that’s very painful.

Despite what women’s magazines say, girls are heavily judged on their pubic hair. If you’re completely unkempt, men will be turned off; at the very least you should trim the length. If you have hair showing out the sides of your underwear, it’s an indication that you need to maintain it better.

Manufacturers have brought out several shavers specifically for your delicate areas; some even have shapes that you can use to style your hair! The most common is a triangle or a strip. Some choose to shave everything off (remembering to go underneath and round the back), giving you a smooth finish. This is great for oral sex, but some feel it looks a bit juvenile. You also have to deal with the stubbly regrowth when shaving, and the possibility of shaving rash and ingrown hairs.

Another option is to wax. Popular styles are Brazilian and Hollywood, either leaving a ‘landing strip’ or removing all hair completely. This is one of the most painful options; some women are more sensitive than others. Avoid having a wax the week before your period (this is when it’s the most sensitive) and exfoliate gently to avoid ingrown hairs. The downside of this option is that you have to wait for it to grow long enough between appointments.

Electrolysis is a more long term option, but you’ll need several appointments for it to be effective and the cost can rack up. But think of all the money you could save in razor blades and waxing!

x Diva x

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