Eating Light

Posted by Diva on August 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

Unless you cater for clients with a love for larger women, it’s important to stay in shape as a sex worker, and this means eating sensibly. I always envied the girls who were lucky enough to eat whatever they liked and stayed slim; some just have higher metabolisms than others. I had to work out to keep my size 10 shape, though I’ve relaxed into a comfortable 12 since quitting escorting.

I can’t give you too much advice here – everyone knows their own body and what size they’re comfortable being. However, I can recommend that you don’t eat too heavily in the hour before a booking – have you tried having sex on a full stomach? Nightmare! The trouble often lies when a client takes you out for dinner and then back to his hotel. You can get carried away with divine menus (especially when someone else is paying), filling yourself up on the finest lobster or duck. You don’t start regretting your decision until you realise that you’re about to get filled up a second time over…

Try to remember to eat lightly if you’ll be having sex later. Otherwise it will be uncomfortable for you, and could even make you feel sick – the last thing you want when you’re on an appointment. Heart burn, indigestion and gas are not the qualities that sell you as an escort!

If you tend to forget, you could try my trick of wearing a skin tight outfit – you’ll be more aware of bloating which will remind you not to over eat. If it’s too late, you may just need to stall him for a bit (assuming there’s still enough time). With any luck, he’ll be too full too and extend your booking. If that seems out of the question, all you can do is choose positions that don’t squash your stomach. If you’re self conscious of it, try bending over slightly while he takes you from behind – sexy and flattering!

Good luck,

x Diva x

Keeping Your Cash Safe

Posted by Diva on August 11th, 2010 | No Comments »

A lot of escorts are paid in cash, which can be very dangerous. It can make you an easy target for thieves, and you stand to lose a lot of earnings in one go. You should take whatever precautions you can to keep it safe, inside and outside the location of your appointment.

If you’re receiving incalls, this won’t be as much of a problem. All you need to do is fit a good security system and make sure your clients don’t steal from you! However, outcalls are more of an issue.

Discretion should be a part of the service you offer; there are still many laws surrounding prostitution in the UK, so this is to protect yourself as much as your client. When you’re on your way to or from a booking, it shouldn’t be obvious that you’re a sex worker. If it is obvious, a thief will know that you’re likely to be carrying a large amount of cash. Even if you’re on your way there and don’t have any, it could leave you shaken up or injured. Make sure you blend into your surroundings and don’t look blatantly like an escort.

Use a bag that has a proper fastening like a zip with an inside compartment. You’d be amazed at how talented the pick pockets in London are; they could reach in without you even being aware. Make it as hard for them as you can.

It’s usual for clients to pay you in cash upfront, so your money will be sat there for the duration of the appointment. Check it again before you leave and keep your bag near you or in sight throughout so that nobody else can take it. If you have multiple bookings in one night, you should leave your earnings with your driver or agency between appointments rather than piling up the pound notes in your bag.

Good luck, I hope the bucks come rolling in!

x Diva x

Temporary Intimacy

Posted by Diva on August 4th, 2010 | No Comments »

A lot of guys are looking for a GFE when they hire an escort (a girlfriend experience). It’s our job to make them feel like the centre of our world, as if we really want to be there with them and are not just doing it for the money. For the actresses among us, this isn’t hard – but there are plenty of girls who find it difficult to fake emotion without actually getting attached, or keeping it separate from their private lives.

If you’re in a relationship and you’re working as an escort, it’s a good idea to have something that differentiates the sex between you and your clients to your relations with your partner. Some girls won’t allow themselves to climax with clients, some won’t kiss on the lips and some think of themselves as a different person entirely when they’re working. It can be a mental separation, even if everything physical is the same.

Some things put the client off right away; although it might feel too intimate for you to make eye contact, this is an important part of a GFE. If you do choose to offer this service, the client will expect a lot of tactility and kissing. Just remember that it doesn’t need to mean the same thing to you as it does with your lover – it’s all about your frame of mind.

If you really can’t separate these feelings and it makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you should consider whether or not this is the right line of work for you. Some girls only choose to escort while they are single, some continue when they are married with children – it’s all about what feels right for you.

x Diva x

About my Blog

Posted by Diva on July 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

For those of you who have just stumbled across my blog, I thought I should tell you a little bit about why I’m here. You’ll probably be able to work it out from scrolling down my previous posts; I provide advice and information for anyone working in the sex industry. As an ex escort, this is the area I’m most knowledgeable about. I’m still in touch with several working girls, and from what I’ve heard, things haven’t changed that much in the last 2 years!

This blog is for escorts, doms and subs, exotic dancers, porn stars, web cam and phone line workers. It could also be of interest to any customers who use the sex industry and want to know the tricks of the trade. If there are any topics that I haven’t yet touched on, please get in contact and ask. If I don’t know much about it myself, I’m bound to know someone who does! I’m hoping that this will help anyone new to the industry, giving a bit of insight.

Enjoy the read,

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

Lazy Positions

Posted by Diva on July 15th, 2010 | No Comments »

Sometimes, men like a woman to take control. You don’t have to be a complete dominatrix, but just knowing what you want and being assertive about it can be a real turn on for them. Whether it’s riding on top, holding their hands above their head or sitting on their face, taking the back seat can be very pleasurable for a man.

However, there are times when you’re absolutely exhausted and can’t quite muster up the energy to get vigorous; luckily for us, there are several sex positions that require minimal exertion. If your man is up for doing a bit of hard work, he will be greatly rewarded!

First of all there’s the classic missionary position. This lets the man assume his masculine role, taking control of the speed and depth of penetration. If you want to go a bit deeper, lift up your legs and balance them on his shoulders or arms as he holds himself up.

A great one for early morning or middle of the night sex is spooning; curl up on your side with your man curled around you, and he can penetrate you from behind. This is also useful if you have to keep quiet; there’s less creaking than missionary, letting him slide in and out of you gently. It also leaves his hands free to feel you all over, making this quite intimate.

If intimacy’s out the window and you don’t have the stamina for doggy style, try lying flat on your front and tilting your pelvis back towards him. He can penetrate you from behind, and if you squeeze your legs together when he’s inside the sensation will be even better for him. This is very little effort on your part with dynamite results!

x Diva x

Drunken Sex

Posted by Diva on July 14th, 2010 | No Comments »

People often seem to get more horny when they’re drunk. This is mostly because alcohol gives you confidence, so any hang ups that you might usually have in the bedroom are significantly reduced. You have less fear of rejection so are more likely to approach a woman, and may well feel like you’re an absolute stud. I remember a lot of late night calls at the escort agency I worked for, usually from drunk, horny men.

Unfortunately, alcohol is not a magic confidence cure; most people don’t know where to stop and will have a little bit too much. If you’re drunk, you will be sloppy which affects your technique, and you might find it more difficult to come. Those who suffer from premature ejaculation could see this as a good thing, but if you get too drunk you might not be able to come at all.

In the worst cases, you won’t even be able to get it up  - this is known as a Brewer’s Droop. You might feel very aroused, but find that nothing’s happening below the waist. For women, drinking too much can dry you up; it’s a well known fact that alcohol dehydrates you, and this doesn’t just affect your mouth. If you do want some drunken sex, make sure you use some lube so that it’s not uncomfortable for you.

If you do like a drink to boost your sexual confidence, I’d recommend two maximum – any more might be a hindrance!

x Diva x

Know Your Lube

Posted by Diva on July 9th, 2010 | No Comments »

It’s very useful to have individual, small packets of lube. If you’re an escort who does outcalls, you probably don’t want to carry around a huge tube of it everywhere you go. It could be embarrassing if that fell out in a public place! Many manufacturers have come up with sachets that are small enough to fit in your wallet, and mini bottles no bigger than your lipstick. They’re much more discreet, and will be enough for one session.

I found that in a lot of the multi packs, you can get many different flavours and types of lubricant. From cherry to pina colada, and heating to tingling, you can experience different sensations from using these. My piece of advice to you is to test them out on a patch of your skin before diving in at the deep end! I learned this lesson the hard way.

Just because you’ve used one particular brand before, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be allergic to other ranges. For example, I had used ‘Durex Play’ for a long time and never had any problems. But when I used a flavoured sachet, all kinds of unpleasant burning sensations rubbed over my skin! You really don’t want this to happen with a client (luckily this was with my husband).

Just like hair dye packets advise you to try before you apply, lubricant needs to be tested on a delicate part of your skin before you put it on your precious parts!

x Diva x

The Netherlands Have the Right Idea…

Posted by Diva on July 5th, 2010 | No Comments »

I don’t think that the British Government will ever get it right when it comes to prostitution laws. As long as we have a stiff upper lip and refuse to acknowledge that there are huge problems in the sex industry, nothing will ever be solved. Pimping and trafficking is still rife, with girls getting raped and beaten by clients, boyfriends and even family. Politicians seem to think that by making laws against prostitution it won’t happen!

I think that the Netherlands have the right idea; there, prostitution is legal and it is regulated. This creates a safe working environment for the girls, allowing them to find clients without worrying that they will get arrested. It’s also legal to run a brothel, and as long as the owner is not taking advantage of the girls, this is also much more safe than women walking the streets, accepting incalls or working for a pimp.

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to completely wipe out crimes such as trafficking; there will also be bad people in the world who will do absolutely anything for financial gain. But to provide an environment where girls will not get beaten and raped, will use protection, will get regular check ups for STIs and can even pay taxes on their earnings, the sex industry would be a much better place!

x Diva x

Accepting Incalls

Posted by Diva on July 1st, 2010 | No Comments »

As I never accepted incalls during my time as an escort, this information is second hand. I have a few friends in the sex industry and have talked with them at length about their experiences, some of which were very similar to mine and some that were quite different.

An incall is when an escort invites clients into her some. There are some escort agencies that own flats and arrange for clients to meet their girls there; this is much safer, because then clients don’t know your real address. I’ve heard stories about clients who became stalkers, starting off with gifts and flowers, but their behaviour turning more dark when their advances were rejected. There’s also the risk of clients turning up at your flat without making a booking – you could be entertaining friends or family at any time, so this is always a problem.

If you do choose to accept incalls at your home working as an independent escort, it is completely legal. Accepting money for sex in the UK has always been legal – there are just a lot of laws around prostitution that can make it difficult. If you’re working alone in a flat, it’s also legal. Any more sex workers in one place is considered to be a brothel, which is against the law.

However, being completely alone when your clients visit is very dangerous. If you cannot afford any kind of security and you don’t have a flatmate who is aware of your profession, make sure you take whatever precautions you can. Keep a rape alarm close by, and if possible do some self defence classes so that you can protect yourself if necessary. You should always make sure that someone else knows your client’s details and when they are visiting, even if it’s just a friend. After you’ve finished your appointment, let that friend know you’re safe.

If you’re unsure about a client at all, don’t invite him into your home. Any sign of drug or alcohol abuse, short temper or violence should sound alarm bells in your head- no amount of money is worth putting yourself at risk.

x Diva x

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