Legitimate Escort Agencies

Posted by Diva on August 31st, 2010 | No Comments »

I’ve had a few enquiries from people just starting out in the escort industry about how to know whether or not an escort agency is legitimate. You’d be surprised at how many websites are fake, and how many are unprofessional, badly managed agencies. It’s quite simple to find out if they are actually up and running, and how respectable they are.

The first thing to do is to check the contact details of the escort agency. Phone the number to see if your call is answered, and if the phone operator sounds professional. Also try emailing them to enquire about vacancies, asking more detailed information such as the standard procedure for bookings and the rate of pay. Remember that you won’t take home the full hourly rate advertised – you’ll have to pay the agency a cut of each booking.

Respectable agencies will provide their escorts with a driver to take them to and from bookings; the driver should stay outside for the duration to make sure you’re safe with your client. If you’re told to make your own way using public transport, you should steer clear!

A good agency will also ask to see your documents before hiring you. You’ll need to prove that you’re over 18 years old, and that you can work in the UK legally. If you can’t, I’m afraid you won’t be able to get a job with a respectable escort agency.

There are plenty of genuine agencies who don’t ask for any money upfront to advertise on their website; they only take a percentage once they have secured you a booking. They should never tell you what services you have to offer a client; this is up to you. You should only do what you are comfortable with, and not let anyone push your limits or control you.

Good luck out there,

x Diva x

Understanding Your Industry

Posted by Diva on August 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Imagine being an escort who gets bought dinner in fancy restaurants, accompanies rich men to social events and exclusive parties, without having to offer any sexual services. It’s practically the perfect job for any pretty girl who enjoys an active social life; so many young women are eager to become an escort so that they can live this dream. Sadly, it’s not a reality for many people. Don’t you think we’d all be doing it if it was that easy?!

Of course, not all men want to pay for sex. Some genuinely want a female companion for a social occasion, so they will pay for an escort from a reputable agency. However, I’m sure that the same girl has performed sexual services for 90% of her other clients! Agencies are not allowed to advertise that sex is for sale as this is illegal in the UK, so you’ll find that it’s only insinuated on most websites. If you still think it’s all innocent, take a look at the photos: girls with their breasts on display, sticking their bottoms towards you in a naughty outfit. I’m not criticising these girls in any way as I was an escort of this kind myself, but do you really think they’re just offering some company at your work’s Christmas party?

Most escort agencies offer sex, even if it doesn’t say so specifically on their website. To think that you can join this agency and not offer any sexual services is very naive; yes, you’re well within your right to say no, but the client is also within his right to never book you again, and the agency are within their right to not send any more bookings your way if you leave a trail of dissatisfied clients who you’ve said no to.

Be sensible about it if you decide to become an escort; do your research and make sure you know exactly what it is you’re getting into. If  I’m completely wrong and there are agencies who offer social companionship only, please do correct me!

Staying Anonymous

Posted by Diva on August 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

Understandably, many people working in the sex industry wish to keep their identities private. Unless your friends and family are very open minded and understanding, they may not be supportive of your decision to be a sex worker. There are several measures you can take to remain anonymous, however none of them are 100% fool proof; if you’re meeting clients who you’ve never seen before, you never know who they might be. That’s the risk that you have to take if you want to make money in this industry!

First of all, avoid looking for business in your immediate area; for example, I used to live in North London but only advertised in West and Central. It’s a small step, but at least you’re less likely to bump into your neighbours. It’s also a good idea to avoid bringing clients back to your home, otherwise those living with or near you will become suspicious about the amount of traffic coming through your door.

Of course, change your name. Some escorts stick with the same working name throughout their career to build up a good reputation, others change it on occasion to make themselves more difficult to find. Work on a first name only basis and don’t reveal your real name to any clients. Get a separate email address and mobile phone to use for work; this will avoid any slip ups and keep your sex work separate from the rest of your life.

In photos, it’s true that those who show their faces get the most bookings. However, you can still have nice, professional pictures with your face concealed; try a Venetian style mask, angles away from your face or using photo shop afterwards to obscure your face. The less you cover, the more aesthetically pleasing it will look; make sure your hair is visible and preferably your face shape.

Remember to conceal any scars, birthmarks or tattoos that might give away your identity; again, this can be done using photo shop.

Fingers crossed that you never bump into anyone you know while you’re working!

x Diva x

About my Blog

Posted by Diva on July 28th, 2010 | No Comments »

For those of you who have just stumbled across my blog, I thought I should tell you a little bit about why I’m here. You’ll probably be able to work it out from scrolling down my previous posts; I provide advice and information for anyone working in the sex industry. As an ex escort, this is the area I’m most knowledgeable about. I’m still in touch with several working girls, and from what I’ve heard, things haven’t changed that much in the last 2 years!

This blog is for escorts, doms and subs, exotic dancers, porn stars, web cam and phone line workers. It could also be of interest to any customers who use the sex industry and want to know the tricks of the trade. If there are any topics that I haven’t yet touched on, please get in contact and ask. If I don’t know much about it myself, I’m bound to know someone who does! I’m hoping that this will help anyone new to the industry, giving a bit of insight.

Enjoy the read,

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

Drunken Sex

Posted by Diva on July 14th, 2010 | No Comments »

People often seem to get more horny when they’re drunk. This is mostly because alcohol gives you confidence, so any hang ups that you might usually have in the bedroom are significantly reduced. You have less fear of rejection so are more likely to approach a woman, and may well feel like you’re an absolute stud. I remember a lot of late night calls at the escort agency I worked for, usually from drunk, horny men.

Unfortunately, alcohol is not a magic confidence cure; most people don’t know where to stop and will have a little bit too much. If you’re drunk, you will be sloppy which affects your technique, and you might find it more difficult to come. Those who suffer from premature ejaculation could see this as a good thing, but if you get too drunk you might not be able to come at all.

In the worst cases, you won’t even be able to get it up  - this is known as a Brewer’s Droop. You might feel very aroused, but find that nothing’s happening below the waist. For women, drinking too much can dry you up; it’s a well known fact that alcohol dehydrates you, and this doesn’t just affect your mouth. If you do want some drunken sex, make sure you use some lube so that it’s not uncomfortable for you.

If you do like a drink to boost your sexual confidence, I’d recommend two maximum – any more might be a hindrance!

x Diva x

Reputation

Posted by Diva on June 29th, 2010 | No Comments »

In my time working as an escort, I noticed that some of the low budget escort agencies didn’t see many repeat customers; their service was pretty bad, so they relied on new customers all the time. This is sustainable up to a point because of the sheer number of clients in London, but they would make so much more money if their clients returned.

Agencies don’t have much control over the girls once they’ve gone to see a client (in fact, it would be illegal for them to try to control the girls). For this reason, escorts are free to do whatever they want, often bringing agencies into disrepute. The most common reasons are that they are rude and impolite, unclean or demand extra cash for a kiss, for oral sex etc. It’s a shame, but there’s not much that can be done about it.

As an escort, independent or with an agency, all you can do is earn a good reputation for yourself. If you can get regular clients, you’ll be ensuring yourself regular work and more money, rather than relying on unstable or infrequent bookings. To do this, you need to give your client value for their money; that means staying for the full length of time you’ve booked them, and making them feel good about themselves. Agree a fixed price before the booking, and don’t ask for more; if you do well, they’re likely to tip you and book you again – that’s better than scoring an extra £20 for a snog.

Escorts can change their names and photos, but if you build yourself a good reputation, the clients will come to you.

x Diva x

Advertising Legally

Posted by Diva on June 10th, 2010 | No Comments »

It’s not illegal to be a prostitute in the UK, but there are so many laws surrounding the industry that it can be difficult and you have to remain very discreet so that no feathers are ruffled.  It’s against the law to street walk or curb crawl, you can no longer leave calling cards in phone boxes (though it’s still very common), and it’s illegal to be a pimp of any kind or to own a brothel. This can make it much more difficult for escorts and sex workers to find new clients; however, there are plenty of ways to get round the law.

Thanks to the internet, you can make your high resolution photos and direct contact details available to the whole world. The only stipulation is that you can’t be seen to directly offer sex for money, but you can offer your time and/or your companionship. If you’re wearing a g string and bending your body provocatively in the photos, the client will be able to work out for himself what privilege he’s paying for!

If you work for an escort agency, they will usually ask you for some professional promo pictures. These may cost you a few hundred pounds to shoot, but it is an investment and will bring you much more work in. You can earn it back in a matter of hours! Any good agency will not charge you to be featured on their site, but will take a cut of your earnings. It’s in their interest to get you more work, so this is the easiest option when it comes to advertising.

If you’re an independent escort, you will have to pay to advertise online. The best escort guides with the most traffic will cost more, but will bring you more work. You could also look into advertising in paper publications, but weigh up the cost against how much more work it will get you. It’s a good idea to build your own website with plenty of photos and information about yourself; clients like to know what they’re paying for in advance.

Many believe that we should follow in the footsteps of the Netherlands and legalise prostitution; this way it could be monitored and regulated, making life much safer for a sex worker. I agree with this, but I doubt the British government will make a leap like that any time soon!

x Diva x

Knowing Your Niche

Posted by Diva on June 4th, 2010 | No Comments »

The world of escorting is vast. In London alone there are thousands of girls offering their services, and judging by the ongoing success of the industry, there are also thousands of men taking us up on those services. Being an escort is one of the oldest professions in history; it may have gone under some other names in the past – courtesan, call girl, prostitute – but in essence, the role has been the same.

A brief glimpse on the internet will show you that the most popular type of escort is a young, attractive woman offering a GFE. She’s likely to have some appealing asset, such as blonde hair, long hair big breasts or a curvy ass. If you fall under this category, then it’s up to you to advertise yourself well and fend off the competition. However, if you differ from the majority, you should focus on those differences and use them to your advantage. There are plenty of niche markets out there, and although there are a few less clients looking for them, there are also a lot less girls offering those services.

You need to think about who you’re targeting; if you’re a cute Oriental girl in London, you may have noticed that there are several escort agencies dedicated to Asian escorts. By advertising with these, you know that the guys who click on the site are already looking for a girl like you! If you’re placed in a gallery amongst 20 busty blondes, you will stand out but the man looking was probably after a busty blonde. It’s all a case of knowing your audience.

Concentrate on your strengths; if you’re assertive and borderline bossy, you might make a great dominatrix. There are plenty of men looking for fuller figured ladies and older women, so you don’t need to lie about your age and your dress size. Instead, play up to them and find men who are looking for a girl just like you. Perhaps you have a fetish you’re keen to explore.

Only you know what you’re good at; however random or bizarre you might think it is, I can guarantee that there’s a guy out there who would go crazy for it!

x Diva x

Weekends

Posted by Diva on February 5th, 2010 | No Comments »

This may be stating the obvious, but for most sex workers the weekend is the busiest time. Often clients are off work at this time and like to give themselves a little treat.

This can be very inconvenient for your social life; chances are that weekends are when your friends go out together, but you may find that you have to miss out because you’re working. When I was working as an escort, I used to always take Sundays and Mondays off, regardless of which other days I was working. This made me feel like my life had some structure, and I could have a lazy day with my boyfriend while he was off work on a Sunday. This may have meant sacrificing one good day’s pay, but I could work all on Friday and Saturday night to bring in the bacon (no pun intended).

You need to decide what your priorities are; perhaps you could organise your schedule to work every other weekend, or come to some agreement with your agency. Just remember to give yourself a little time otherwise you may end up resenting your job and not appreciating the hard earned cash as much as you could!

x Diva x

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