Smoking & Sexuality
Posted by Diva on March 10th, 2010 | No Comments »
I myself have never been a smoker. Aside from those days back in college when I’d partake in the odd joint, cigarettes have so far never managed to seduce me. I’m not particularly anti smoking; I’ve had boyfriends in the past who smoked heavily and it didn’t bother me. I was just so proud of myself for making it through secondary school without bowing to peer pressure that I thought it would be silly to start now, and I’d heard that it can give you premature wrinkles so I steered clear.
However, I never managed to disassociate smoking with being cool; all of the coolest girls in school were puffing away from the age of 13, and I would gaze at them in awe admiring their bravado for breaking the rules. Even in my 20s, watching my ex smoke always turned me on a bit, and I actually liked the smell of him afterwards. Ashtrays are nasty, but a man with cigarette smoke is sexy.
I know for a fact that some escorts lie on their profiles; they might knock a few years off their age, a few inches off their waist or add a cup size to their bust. Similarly, many are advertised as non smokers then get rumbled by clients when they turn up smelling of fags. But what about the clients who do like smokers?
Photo by Tayler Aleks
I’ve recently heard from ‘Dave’, one of a group of men who have a fetish for smokers. He isn’t a smoker himself, but he finds seeing a gorgeous girl light up “erotic, glamourous, sensual, alluring, confident, seductive, sophisticated and more than a touch of the slutty bad girl about it”. I can completely understand this; smoking can be very sexy. Have you ever tried doing a blow back? It might just make you come in your knickers.
For men like Dave, it’s frustrating for escorts to lie on their profiles. They actually want to meet girls who do smoke, and they want to see her do it. You’ll find a fetish for almost everything out there, and I hadn’t really considered this one before; but now I think about it, it might be more popular than I realised!
x Diva x
Busy Bee!
Posted by Diva on March 9th, 2010 | No Comments »
Hello,
Apologies for the lack of posts today or yesterday – I’ve been so busy! I’ve noticed that tomorrow is National No Smoking Day, but ironically after some discussion with a punter I will be discussing escorts and smoking. Email me tonight if you have any input on the matter, I’d love to hear from you.
x Diva x
Being Tactful
Posted by Diva on March 5th, 2010 | No Comments »
Successful escorts are supposed to be the perfect companions; men don;t fork out hundreds for a woman to be rude or stand off-ish. If they can tell that you’re not enjoying the experience, it’s unlikely that they will be able to enjoy it either. Politeness and general good manners will get you far, but one quality it’s very helpful to have is the ability to be tactful.
Sex can be a messy and at times embarrassing business. Over time, you are likely to encounter things like excessive sweating, funny noises and ridiculous sex faces; some things you can laugh about together but other things require tact. One of the most important things is personal hygiene (on both parts), and any man who uses escorts regularly will appreciate this and shower before she arrives. However if you find that he is not as fresh as you’d like, try not to screw your face up and go “ewww”. This will probably offend and embarrassing, and completely ruin the mood. Instead, try an approach like telling him you love to see a man all wet and naked, suggesting that he lets you watch him take a shower. There are plenty of variations, but suggesting a shower is much more polite and tactful than telling him he smells bad.
Another common one is during oral sex; you might have noticed that after a man goes down on you he can get quite a wet face (assuming you’re enjoying it). I’ve spotted a few guys doing the trick of kissing the inside of your thighs afterwards to wipe their mouths, using you as a human napkin. I like this! It’s much more discreet than coming up for air and wiping their face with the sheets or their hand. For women, you may often find that you get a hair or two in your mouth when performing oral sex. Don’t make a big deal of this; discreetly continue pleasuring him with one hand while you clear your mouth out and then continue as if nothing happened.
Use your own judgement in most situations, but bear in mind that your client is paying for your company and wants to enjoy himself! I’m sure you’ll do great.
x Diva x
The Slow Drink
Posted by Diva on March 3rd, 2010 | No Comments »
When I used to visit clients, they almost always had some form of alcohol there. Usually wine or champagne, but sometimes something stronger. If you’re not careful you can end up getting completely plastered – some clients deliberately top up your glass all night.
If you’re with someone you don’t know too well, you should keep your wits about you. It’s fine to drink a bit, but too much alcohol can cloud your judgement. You don’t want to offend your client by refusing their drink, but there are a few sneaky things you can try so that you remain in control.
My favourite method was always playing the hostess; make him feel like a prince by fussing over him and being his ‘maid’. I would adopt this persona so that it was always me topping up our glasses. I’d drink slowly and top us both up at the same time, always giving him much more than myself. They rarely noticed, especially if I gave them a distraction (like a killer view of my cleavage or arse) as I poured.
Another thing you can try is pouring some of your drink into theirs when they go to the bathroom – do this in small amounts at a time otherwise they’ll notice. Also this is assuming that you’re drinking from the same bottle! Finally, you have the old trick of slinging some into the nearest plant pot or sink! It seems a little juvenile, but if it stops you getting wasted it could be worth it. Just don’t get caught doing it, especially if the drink is expensive…
If all else fails, just come onto them. That’s what you’re both there for, and you can’t drink while you have a cock in your mouth! Most clients won’t complain about this method.
Good luck,
x Diva x
Condoms
Posted by Diva on March 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »
It’s amazing how many people manage to successfully convince themselves that they can safely have sex without using condoms. One girl said to me that her and her boyfriend use the ‘withdrawal method’, but don’t use any other contraception; for those of you who don’t know, the withdrawal method involves having unprotected sex, and the man pulls out before he ejaculates and shoots his load outside the body. There are several flaws in this plan: first of all, most men have ‘pre come’ which leaks out when he is aroused, long before he ejaculates. This could contain sperm, and could get you pregnant. Yes, the chances are greatly reduced, but it only takes one little swimmer! Also, you can still catch STIs without a man coming inside you – the intercourse itself is enough. If a couple are faithful and have both been tested and found clean, this isn’t so bad. But for escorts and sex workers, I really wouldn’t recommend this!
Personally, I hate using condoms. It’s such a relief that now I’m married I never have to think about them. I’ll stay on the pill until we’re ready to have kids, and providing he doesn’t stray it should be perfectly safe. Believe me, I know that it feels SO much better riding bareback – no condom, skin on skin. The sensation is better for both of you, and there’s no awkward moment when you need to stop to fumble about with the wrapper. And God knows that they don’t taste good!
That said, they’re still so important if you’re having casual sex. A client may even offer you extra money to do it without, but what price can you put on catching HIV or AIDs? Is an extra £100 enough compensation for being left infertile? It’s easy to get caught in the moment and let passion take over, but keep your head screwed on.
Sorry to sound like your mum!
x Diva x
Taking the Rough with the Smooth
Posted by Diva on March 1st, 2010 | No Comments »
I’ve been blogging for a few months now, and I was saying to my husband last week how surprised I am that all my feedback’s been so nice. Obviously not everyone agrees with escorting and the sex industry, and having worked in it for several years I know how nasty people can be. But so far, every email I’d had was positive, and all the spam comments have been random links like gambling sites. Nothing against me.
This weekend I had my first abusive comment from ‘Nick’, letting me know that I’m a “fucking c**t whore”. To his credit, that’s not entirely inaccurate: I do a lot of fucking, I have a c**t (if that’s what you want to call it), and I did work as a whore for several years. Fair enough. But if escorting offends you so much that you feel the need to be rude, why are you spending time on escort websites? My URL reads ‘Escort Life’, and my tag line is ‘The Sex Professional’. It’s very unlikely that you would stumble upon this blog by accident.
To anyone out there who is a sex worker, there will always be people who feel the need to be vocal about their hate for the sex industry. If it’s just words, ignore them and forget about it. Block them from your computer or phone. If it ever gets threatening or physical, report it to the police. Your safety is the most important thing, always put that first.
x Diva x
That Moment
Posted by Diva on February 25th, 2010 | No Comments »
I’d say that the climax is most people’s favourite part of sex. The big ‘O’, the release. But I have another part that’s my favourite: that moment when a man first enters you (provided that you’re nice and wet). I’ve been sexually active for quite a few years now, and it still makes me gasp a little. It’s even better if you’ve had a long build up or a tease so that you’re practically begging for it.
For me, it doesn’t matter what position you’re in when he first puts it in. Even if you’re completely in control of the situation, even dominating, you can’t help but give yourself over to that feeling, that moment. I suppose it helps that my husband’s rather well endowed so he fills me right up – it’s like being a virgin all over again every time!
When I was working as an escort, I wasn’t always attracted to my clients. They came in all different shapes and sizes, but I could always appreciate that moment along with them. Judging by the way most men’s eyes roll back in their head, I’d say it’s pretty amazing for them too!
x Diva x
Staying in Control
Posted by Diva on February 22nd, 2010 | No Comments »
Not all sex workers are naturally dominant. Of course there are plenty who specialise in this area, but I’ve heard of many escorts who just lie back and think of England when they’re with a client. From personal experience, I would say that a large proportion of men like women to be assertive in bed, even if you’re not introducing any BDSM. A girl who knows what she wants is very sexy, so it’s great to show this sexually.
If you’re not quite sure how to go about this, there are plenty of ways to get started. Appointments usually last a minimum of an hour, so you have plenty of time to tease before doing the deed. Start by flashing a bit of flesh to get their imagination going; perhaps do a Sharon Stone by uncrossing your legs, maybe lean forward to expose some cleavage. Be the one to initiate kissing or touching, stopping when they start to get too carried away. Give them just enough to keep them going, but leave them begging for more.
Once you get in bed, climb on top and straddle them to show your client who’s boss; pin their arms by their side or above their head while you work some magic with your lips. I like to kiss and lick slowly down their body, but just when they think you’re going in for the kill, tease a bit longer by concentrating inside their thighs where it’s still sensitive. By the time you take them into your mouth or inside you, they’ll be so relieved and grateful that your client will feel forever indebted to you!
I may have been called a cock tease in my time, but they all worshipped me by the time I left!
x Diva x
Working on a Hangover
Posted by Diva on February 19th, 2010 | No Comments »
Yes, we’ve all done it. Unless you’re t-total or have remarkable will power, there will come a time when you have to work on a heavy hangover. Clients often offer you drinks throughout the evening, and it can be easy to get carried away with a fine wine. There are a few things you can do to minimise the pounding head and nausea the following morning, as long as you plan ahead.
If you know you’ll be having a tipple later, make sure you eat properly first. Drinking on an empty stomach gets you drunk much faster, and if someone has paid good money for an escort they don’t want to be holding your hair back while you’re sick! Sip your drinks slowly; if you drink your first one quickly, it’s likely that your glass will be topped up pronto. Also stick to that old rule of not mixing your drinks – stick to either wine or spirits.
Dehydration is what makes your hangovers feel so awful, so drink water throughout the night. Alcohol may be a liquid, but it does dehydrate you. Try to drink a whole glass of water before you go to sleep. Your body will need to be replenished in the morning, so take multivitamins (especially vitamin C) in the morning. Eat a balanced breakfast too, even if you don’t feel hungry. You’ll be glad later in the day!
There are loads of different hang over cures out there, but you need to remember that alcohol poisons your body so it’s always going to affect you. I just follow the tips above to make myself feel as human as possible!
x Diva x
Sex Toys
Posted by Diva on February 15th, 2010 | No Comments »
If you are a sex worker who visits clients, it’s a good idea to have at least a basic knowledge of what sex toys are on the market. Some may request that you bring them to appointments, either to use on you or them. You should practise with them by yourself before using them with a client – it’s the kind of homework that you won’t mind doing!
The most common sex toy is a dildo or vibrator; these come in all shapes and sizes, colours and textures. Most are shaped like a penis, sometimes curving up slightly at the end so they can hit your G spot (on the front wall of your vagina). It’s not uncommon for men to feel threatened or jealous if your vibrator is bigger than their own manhood; it may sound silly, but men are often insecure about the size of their penis – it’s how they measure their worth sometimes! If you’re not sure what they want, take a selection of sizes and start off with the smallest.
If you’re taking sex toys for him, make sure they’re used as intended; anal dildos always have extra material at the base to prevent it getting lost inside, unlike those intended for vaginal use.
One of the most important things to remember is to clean your sex toys thoroughly; it’s not advisable to share them, but there are plenty of products on the market to keep your props hygienic. Never put anything inside your vagina after it has been in his or your anus – this can cause infection. If you’re planning on swapping holes, use a condom on the toy and change it when you swap.
Be safe, go steady!
x Diva x