Legitimate Escort Agencies

Posted by Diva on August 31st, 2010 | No Comments »

I’ve had a few enquiries from people just starting out in the escort industry about how to know whether or not an escort agency is legitimate. You’d be surprised at how many websites are fake, and how many are unprofessional, badly managed agencies. It’s quite simple to find out if they are actually up and running, and how respectable they are.

The first thing to do is to check the contact details of the escort agency. Phone the number to see if your call is answered, and if the phone operator sounds professional. Also try emailing them to enquire about vacancies, asking more detailed information such as the standard procedure for bookings and the rate of pay. Remember that you won’t take home the full hourly rate advertised – you’ll have to pay the agency a cut of each booking.

Respectable agencies will provide their escorts with a driver to take them to and from bookings; the driver should stay outside for the duration to make sure you’re safe with your client. If you’re told to make your own way using public transport, you should steer clear!

A good agency will also ask to see your documents before hiring you. You’ll need to prove that you’re over 18 years old, and that you can work in the UK legally. If you can’t, I’m afraid you won’t be able to get a job with a respectable escort agency.

There are plenty of genuine agencies who don’t ask for any money upfront to advertise on their website; they only take a percentage once they have secured you a booking. They should never tell you what services you have to offer a client; this is up to you. You should only do what you are comfortable with, and not let anyone push your limits or control you.

Good luck out there,

x Diva x

Understanding Your Industry

Posted by Diva on August 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Imagine being an escort who gets bought dinner in fancy restaurants, accompanies rich men to social events and exclusive parties, without having to offer any sexual services. It’s practically the perfect job for any pretty girl who enjoys an active social life; so many young women are eager to become an escort so that they can live this dream. Sadly, it’s not a reality for many people. Don’t you think we’d all be doing it if it was that easy?!

Of course, not all men want to pay for sex. Some genuinely want a female companion for a social occasion, so they will pay for an escort from a reputable agency. However, I’m sure that the same girl has performed sexual services for 90% of her other clients! Agencies are not allowed to advertise that sex is for sale as this is illegal in the UK, so you’ll find that it’s only insinuated on most websites. If you still think it’s all innocent, take a look at the photos: girls with their breasts on display, sticking their bottoms towards you in a naughty outfit. I’m not criticising these girls in any way as I was an escort of this kind myself, but do you really think they’re just offering some company at your work’s Christmas party?

Most escort agencies offer sex, even if it doesn’t say so specifically on their website. To think that you can join this agency and not offer any sexual services is very naive; yes, you’re well within your right to say no, but the client is also within his right to never book you again, and the agency are within their right to not send any more bookings your way if you leave a trail of dissatisfied clients who you’ve said no to.

Be sensible about it if you decide to become an escort; do your research and make sure you know exactly what it is you’re getting into. If  I’m completely wrong and there are agencies who offer social companionship only, please do correct me!

Eating Light

Posted by Diva on August 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

Unless you cater for clients with a love for larger women, it’s important to stay in shape as a sex worker, and this means eating sensibly. I always envied the girls who were lucky enough to eat whatever they liked and stayed slim; some just have higher metabolisms than others. I had to work out to keep my size 10 shape, though I’ve relaxed into a comfortable 12 since quitting escorting.

I can’t give you too much advice here – everyone knows their own body and what size they’re comfortable being. However, I can recommend that you don’t eat too heavily in the hour before a booking – have you tried having sex on a full stomach? Nightmare! The trouble often lies when a client takes you out for dinner and then back to his hotel. You can get carried away with divine menus (especially when someone else is paying), filling yourself up on the finest lobster or duck. You don’t start regretting your decision until you realise that you’re about to get filled up a second time over…

Try to remember to eat lightly if you’ll be having sex later. Otherwise it will be uncomfortable for you, and could even make you feel sick – the last thing you want when you’re on an appointment. Heart burn, indigestion and gas are not the qualities that sell you as an escort!

If you tend to forget, you could try my trick of wearing a skin tight outfit – you’ll be more aware of bloating which will remind you not to over eat. If it’s too late, you may just need to stall him for a bit (assuming there’s still enough time). With any luck, he’ll be too full too and extend your booking. If that seems out of the question, all you can do is choose positions that don’t squash your stomach. If you’re self conscious of it, try bending over slightly while he takes you from behind – sexy and flattering!

Good luck,

x Diva x

Rude Behaviour

Posted by Diva on August 10th, 2010 | No Comments »

Because they are paying for you to be with them, some men are under the illusion that they can treat escorts however they like. This could mean that they talk down to you, make derogatory comments or try to belittle you; in the worst cases, they can become physically violent. The clever ones will behave like the perfect gentleman initially, so not to raise the suspicion of your escort agency or driver. This is where the danger of being an escort lies.

Luckily, the majority of clients simply want your company (and your body) so they will be polite and treat you with respect; if you do happen to encounter one of the men who are rude to you, you’re under no obligation to stay. You shouldn’t let anyone make you feel bad about what you do, so if someone started to insult me during an appointment, I would leave.

Watch out for signs of drink or drug use which could affect their mood; even a regular client who is usually very nice could turn nasty with the wrong amount of narcotics. If they start getting pushy, aggressive or try to make you do things that you don’t want to do, get out of there.

Hopefully none of you get into a situation like that, but keep your wits about you just in case!

Temporary Intimacy

Posted by Diva on August 4th, 2010 | No Comments »

A lot of guys are looking for a GFE when they hire an escort (a girlfriend experience). It’s our job to make them feel like the centre of our world, as if we really want to be there with them and are not just doing it for the money. For the actresses among us, this isn’t hard – but there are plenty of girls who find it difficult to fake emotion without actually getting attached, or keeping it separate from their private lives.

If you’re in a relationship and you’re working as an escort, it’s a good idea to have something that differentiates the sex between you and your clients to your relations with your partner. Some girls won’t allow themselves to climax with clients, some won’t kiss on the lips and some think of themselves as a different person entirely when they’re working. It can be a mental separation, even if everything physical is the same.

Some things put the client off right away; although it might feel too intimate for you to make eye contact, this is an important part of a GFE. If you do choose to offer this service, the client will expect a lot of tactility and kissing. Just remember that it doesn’t need to mean the same thing to you as it does with your lover – it’s all about your frame of mind.

If you really can’t separate these feelings and it makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps you should consider whether or not this is the right line of work for you. Some girls only choose to escort while they are single, some continue when they are married with children – it’s all about what feels right for you.

x Diva x

Staying Anonymous

Posted by Diva on August 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »

Understandably, many people working in the sex industry wish to keep their identities private. Unless your friends and family are very open minded and understanding, they may not be supportive of your decision to be a sex worker. There are several measures you can take to remain anonymous, however none of them are 100% fool proof; if you’re meeting clients who you’ve never seen before, you never know who they might be. That’s the risk that you have to take if you want to make money in this industry!

First of all, avoid looking for business in your immediate area; for example, I used to live in North London but only advertised in West and Central. It’s a small step, but at least you’re less likely to bump into your neighbours. It’s also a good idea to avoid bringing clients back to your home, otherwise those living with or near you will become suspicious about the amount of traffic coming through your door.

Of course, change your name. Some escorts stick with the same working name throughout their career to build up a good reputation, others change it on occasion to make themselves more difficult to find. Work on a first name only basis and don’t reveal your real name to any clients. Get a separate email address and mobile phone to use for work; this will avoid any slip ups and keep your sex work separate from the rest of your life.

In photos, it’s true that those who show their faces get the most bookings. However, you can still have nice, professional pictures with your face concealed; try a Venetian style mask, angles away from your face or using photo shop afterwards to obscure your face. The less you cover, the more aesthetically pleasing it will look; make sure your hair is visible and preferably your face shape.

Remember to conceal any scars, birthmarks or tattoos that might give away your identity; again, this can be done using photo shop.

Fingers crossed that you never bump into anyone you know while you’re working!

x Diva x

Becoming an Escort

Posted by Diva on July 21st, 2010 | No Comments »

Over the last few years, I’ve had several young women contact me to ask about how to get started in the escort industry. I always give the best advice I can; it’s not my place to encourage or discourage, but I can tell them how to become an escort safely and make sure they’re doing it for themselves and not for anyone else.

Although there are many other factors, the main motivation for most people to get into escorting is money. It sounds shallow, but the idea of earning hundreds of pounds in such a short amount of time is very appealing. Some do it to fund their way through University, some need to pay off debts. For some it’s a full time job, and others just do it in their spare time.

The first advice I give is not to accept incalls. If you’re new to the escort world, you don’t want strangers coming into your home. Once you’ve had more than a year’s experience, there are ways to do this more safely (see my other posts on incalls) but it’s much safer to do outcalls in the beginning.

Always use protection. Of course bare back sex feels better (especially for the man), so he may offer you more money to do it without a condom. If you end up catching an STI, it might be treatable (if you’re lucky) – but what price would you put on catching HIV? Is it really worth that extra £50? Don’t take the risk and insist on using protection.

Working with an escort agency is the easiest way to break into the industry. Some of them do not require prior experience, and some will even pay for your professional photos (which are necessary if you want bookings). They will also get your bookings for you and provide a driver to take you to appointments. It takes all of the hassle out of your hands and can give you an immediate foot in the door.

Whatever you do, don’t let anyone else push you into becoming an escort, whether it’s a friend, boyfriend, husband or even family. If you don’t feel comfortable selling your body for money, steer clear of this industry.

x Diva x

Drunken Sex

Posted by Diva on July 14th, 2010 | No Comments »

People often seem to get more horny when they’re drunk. This is mostly because alcohol gives you confidence, so any hang ups that you might usually have in the bedroom are significantly reduced. You have less fear of rejection so are more likely to approach a woman, and may well feel like you’re an absolute stud. I remember a lot of late night calls at the escort agency I worked for, usually from drunk, horny men.

Unfortunately, alcohol is not a magic confidence cure; most people don’t know where to stop and will have a little bit too much. If you’re drunk, you will be sloppy which affects your technique, and you might find it more difficult to come. Those who suffer from premature ejaculation could see this as a good thing, but if you get too drunk you might not be able to come at all.

In the worst cases, you won’t even be able to get it up  - this is known as a Brewer’s Droop. You might feel very aroused, but find that nothing’s happening below the waist. For women, drinking too much can dry you up; it’s a well known fact that alcohol dehydrates you, and this doesn’t just affect your mouth. If you do want some drunken sex, make sure you use some lube so that it’s not uncomfortable for you.

If you do like a drink to boost your sexual confidence, I’d recommend two maximum – any more might be a hindrance!

x Diva x

Developing Feelings

Posted by Diva on July 13th, 2010 | No Comments »

You often hear stories about clients who develop an infatuation with escorts or sex workers who they see, but what about when it happens the other way round? If you’re seeing the same client on a regular basis, if you have a connection and he treats you like a Queen, you’re bound to get attached in some way.

It’s very rare that this will become an epic love story and that you’ll run away with each other into the sunset. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but just try to be realistic about it. First of all, think about how he sees you. Are you just sex to him, or does he value you more highly? Does he see other escorts too? Does he have a wife or a girlfriend?

If he’s already in a relationship (albeit an unhappy one), there will always be issues with trust. You know that he has cheated on his partner to be with you, so what’s to say he wouldn’t do that to you? He may also have problems with the fact that you’ve worked as an escort – he could start obsessing about the number of men you’ve slept with, or make you feel cheap when he wants to hurt you during an argument.

Some men might be very fond of you and see no other escorts, but have no intention of leaving their wives (often for monetary or family reasons). If you’re just his mistress, don’t build up your hopes that one day he’ll leave her for you. If you’re really in too deep, you might have to stop seeing that client. It will lose you a lot of money in bookings at first, but will be a great investment for your heart.

x Diva x

The Lure of Lingerie

Posted by Diva on July 8th, 2010 | No Comments »

This may sound a bit obvious, but never underestimate the importance of good lingerie. Most clients expect escorts to arrive wearing matching garments in an attractive fabric such as silk or lace. Many also favour stockings and suspenders, and a corset or a basque. For the full get up you should let your escort know beforehand so that she can prepare, but girls – don’t expect a great reaction if you turn up in greying granny pants.

My elder sister always told me that it’s vital to wear nice underwear at all times. When I was teenage and hormonal, with boys seeming like the most important thing on the planet, she would ask me this: “What if you’re hit by a car, and a sexy doctor has to cut your clothes off? He’ll never fall in love with you if you’re wearing horrid knickers!” Since then, I’ve made sure that nothing embarrassing has made its way into my underwear drawer.

I don’t know what it is that’s so magical about matching lingerie; obviously push up bras emphasise your assets, but wearing a nice set shows that you’ve put thought into what you’re wearing. It shows that you’re aware of your sexuality, and that you want whoever is seeing it to desire you. Men are just being obedient, really!

You never know when you might be called for a last minute appointment, or run into an old flame on the street. My advice is to wear attractive underwear at all times!

x Diva x

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