Bearing the Pain
Posted by Diva on February 26th, 2010 | No Comments »
I used to get told that a wax would hurt less every time. I tried it many times, but the heat ripping away from my most delicate areas never quite became bearable. I like to have a Brazilian – everything gone except a small strip. I used to just shave, but then you have the risk of shaving rash, and 2 days later it’s already stubbly again.
I earned a nice enough living as an escort, but not so lavish that I could afford laser hair removal treatment. What I wouldn’t give to be bald from the neck down! Life would be so much easier. But I’m not, and I have dark hair, so my legs and privates must be tended to.
Not long ago, I decided to give hair removal cream another try. I had done it a couple of years before, and remember not being overly impressed with the results. But perhaps if I left it on a little longer… it seemed worth a try. And so I bought the Veet kit, much cheaper than a wax at just under £6.00. It specifies that it is to be used on the bikini line and nowhere else on the body… but that isn’t very clear! What about underneath? Is it safe to use on my outer labia? Because they need to be smooth.
10 minutes later, and I could tell you that the answer is NO! Come on Veet, draw me a diagram or something! It stung and burned, and even then it wasn’t left smooth. Kind of patchy and stubbly, having to be touched up the next day with a razor.
Is wax the only answer? Am I destined to live a life bearing the pain? Please let me know if any of you have tips for hair removal, I’m still searching…
x Diva x
Natural Remedies
Posted by Diva on February 10th, 2010 | No Comments »
For most jobs, getting ill is a real hindrance. Escorting requires a fair amount of physical exertion (to put it politely), and nobody wants to meet with a woman who’s pale, snotty or clammy.
I’d be the first one to pop a couple of paracetamol when I have a headache, but I’m also a big believer in natural remedies. The first rule of good health is pretty simple: look after your body. If you fill it with crap (drink, drugs, fast food), chances are you’re going to feel run down a lot of the time. You need sleep and exercise to stay healthy. Make sure you get plenty of vitamin C (found in oranges). The days of scurvy may be over, but this boosts your immune system and will help your body fight little viruses that try to take hold.
When I was younger I used to regularly suffer from colds and sore throats. Honey and lemon is a classic remedy that is still copied by most medicines; I dissolved mine in boiling water and drank it as a tea. For sore throats, you can also add thyme (boiled in a pot like tea leaves). Thyme has been used as a medicine for decades, and has great effects on your respiratory system. It’s also beneficial for asthma sufferers.
For your throat, boil some sage. Instead of drinking it, gargle this to soothe your throat – it is a natural antiseptic. Ingesting sage is also said to be good for bloating and gas.
Some are more obvious, such as using oil for dry skin. There are remedies all around you, so if you’re looking for a natural pick me up, do a quick search online and you’ll find loads of ideas!
x Diva x
Personal Hygiene
Posted by Diva on February 3rd, 2010 | No Comments »
This is SO important for both men and women, especially if you’re involved in the sex industry! If you’re a man hiring an escort, you really must take a shower shortly before she/he arrives. Wash everything properly, brush your teeth and use deodorant. There really is nothing more unpleasant than bad smells when you’re trying to get in the mood, and you’ll probably enjoy the whole experience a lot more if your escort is enjoying herself. If you don’t smell good, your escort may bring it up and ask you to shower, which would be embarrassing and awkward for both of you. Avoid any of this and shower regardless, even if you don’t think you’re dirty! Better to be on the safe side.
If you’re a sex worker who meets clients, the same goes for you. Be as clean as you can to make everything more pleasant for the customer; that way they’re more likely to book you again. If it’s impossible to shower between appointments, there are plenty of portable products these days, such as deo wipes and Femfresh. Do the best you can!
Good luck smelling lovely,
x Diva x
Smile!
Posted by Diva on January 29th, 2010 | No Comments »
A beautiful smile can transform your whole face. It’s one of the first things that people notice about you, and for escorts it can mean the difference between getting a big tip or getting the door closed in your face!
Most of you will probably agree that teeth are one of the main components of a good smile. I’m quite lucky that I prefer white wine to red, green tea to coffee and I’ve never smoked. Those are some of the biggest culprits for stained and discoloured teeth. The first step you can take towards combating this is to buy a good toothpaste; smokers can get one made especially for them, and there are many brands that offer ‘whitening’ properties. How I made mine the most pearly was by brushing with one of these first, then following that with a ‘tooth polish’ like pearl drops. You can even go on to use a plaque reducing mouth wash too which will guarantee minty fresh breath.
The next step is to pay regular visits to your dentist. You don’t necessarily need to fork out for professional tooth whitening or veneers; a proper clean in the chair can make a big difference. Even if you have no dental problems you should still go to ensure plaque is kept at bay and bacteria doesn’t build up. I can assure that nobody will pay you for sex if your teeth are rotting!
As well as nice teeth, you should also maintain lovely lips. Too much snogging and cold weather can dry them out, so keep a good balm in your handbag at all times. Keep in mind who you’re seeing too; if you’re meeting a client, bright red lipstick might not be the best idea because it could end up being smeared everywhere!
Using these tips should keep your smile gorgeous and enticing, all the more kissable…
x Diva x
The Right Places
Posted by Diva on December 14th, 2009 | No Comments »
As an escort, I was always aspiring to earn more money and to be considered a ‘high class escort’. Some say that if you start out at the bottom end (with budget escort agencies), it’s impossible to break the cycle and work your way up. Others say that you need experience, and like any other industry you have to start at the bottom.
There’s probably some truth in both of these statements; not all high class escorts come from the same background. I worked for a few different escort agencies before going independent, and I did manage to charge a lot more than I had earned through agencies. But you need to decide what your goals are, and work out a plan of how to reach them. If you’re determined enough, you’ll get there.
One of the first things you need to remember is to be seen in the right places. If you’re aspiring to be considered a high class working girl, there’s no point hanging around on street corners in Brixton to get extra business. You have to look and dress the part, and be seen in the kind of places you want to associate yourself with. Think Knightsbridge and Mayfair, at designer stores, casinos and expensive wine bars. If you’re looking hot enough, you won’t need to spend your hard earned cash; the men will come to you.
To pull this off, you need to believe you can. It is well worth investing in a few key designer pieces; Primark and PVC won’t cut it in these joints. Just tell yourself that you are worth the hundreds or thousands you aspire to make, and carry yourself that way. If you believe it, everyone else will too!
x Diva x
Winter Waistlines
Posted by Diva on December 8th, 2009 | No Comments »
It’s a problem for every man and woman who celebrates Christmas: expanding waistlines. Piling on a few more pounds for insulation might be fine for some people, but for escorts and sex workers it can lose you work. We’re expected to look perfect all the time, so a bulge around the middle is frowned upon.
Cold weather often makes you want to eat more, especially hot or stodgy food. Salads might be fine in the heat of summer, but winter is all about roast dinners, pies and stews. Many people also reduce the amount of exercise they do during the colder months too, cutting out outdoor activities such as walking, skating and jogging.
It’s a good idea to prepare yourself in the autumn, rather than panicking a week before Christmas and trying to starve yourself. Any kind of crash diet will only make you more likely to slip up and gorge on something naughty. Instead, maintain a balanced diet throughout the month but up your exercise slightly. If you need some encouragement, find a friend to go to the gym with you or buy some exercise DVDs to do at home.
You should still treat yourself at Christmas, just watch the amount of alcohol you consume because that can pile on calories. Also, don’t have seconds unless you’re still hungry and be careful of snacks that are easy to pick at like chocolates and nuts. Mothers have a habit of leaving them all over the house!
Good luck,
x Diva x
Twisted Ankle
Posted by Diva on December 1st, 2009 | No Comments »
Note to self and all sex workers: don’t walk in heels on a twisted ankle. Ouch.
Watching Your Waistline
Posted by Diva on November 25th, 2009 | No Comments »
There’s so much pressure on people to stay slim these days, especially women. I don’t remember a time when it was fashionable to be more curvy; God bless J Lo and Beyonce for waving the big bum flag, but they’re probably still in the gym with a personal trainer every day so it’s hardly an achievable goal. Marilyn Monroe made the hourglass figure in the 50s, which was a relief after the breathtakingly beautiful but stick thin Audrey Hepburn.
When you look at paintings from the renaissance era, the beautiful women portrayed were curvalicious. You didn’t see any ribs or collar bones jutting out, unlike the size zero figures paraded in front of us today.
Unless you specialise in a plus size market, sex workers are expected to stay trim. Anything above a size 12 is frowned upon, and girls often knock a dress size off their profile statistics when advertising online.
I was always battling to stay a svelte size 10 when I worked as an escort. The only advice I can offer you is to not bother with all these fad diets. Some drain your energy, some leave you lacking nutrition. The answer I found was good old fashioned healthy eating with exercise. I went to the gym 3 times a week and power walked instead of taking cabs. If I really wanted to drop a few pounds, I’d stick to unprocessed meat, fish and vegetables for a while.
A lot of it is common sense. Choose wholemeal bread, rice, pasta and cereal, and don’t eat to much of it. Don’t binge on alcohol, fats or sugars. You already know all of this, it just needs putting into practise!
x Diva
Belle de Jour all over the shop!
Posted by Diva on November 19th, 2009 | No Comments »
My goodness, hasn’t Belle de Jour stirred things up this week! I’ve already been contacted by two journalists from National Papers trying to get my take on escorting. Suddenly the whole country is interested in the industry – the pros and cons, the glamour and the horror.
It was much to the UK’s surprise that Belle turned out to be a doctor who escorted for 2 years whilst studying for her PhD. Dr Brooke Magnanti was well raised, is well spoken and seems well rounded. She may not be typical of all London escorts, but she is a shining example to all the sceptics and haters. Level headed women are perfectly capable of choosing this lifestyle for themselves, and friends and family are capable of accepting it.
Belle revealing her true identity didn’t seem to be out of choice; she knew that people would judge her for it and that it could affect personal and professional relationships. It would seem that hungry vulture journalists had tracked her down and were just about to blow her secret anyway, so she was forced to do it on her own terms. Poor lass, it must’ve been quite traumatic. I’m glad her co-workers have stood behind her and accepted that this news didn’t have anything to do with her current job. She works in a scientific research unit in Bristol, looking for cures for sick children. Not exactly the epitome of evil, like some would like to believe.
I completely accept that there are horrible things that go on in the world; girls forced into prostitution, children trafficked, women beaten and abused. It is truly heart breaking. But there are also strong women who choose this life style for themselves and feel empowered by it; I applaud Dr Brooke Magnanti for highlighting that fact.
x Diva x
Killer Heels
Posted by Diva on November 13th, 2009 | No Comments »
I feel that I need to let my feelings out and express my everlasting love for killer heels. My husband has absolutely no interest and can’t fathom my shoe addiction – he just doesn’t understand!
High heels can do so many things. They can make you stand up straight and tall, feeling and appearing more confident and assertive. They can pull your stomach in flatter and shape your calves, transforming your figure. They can give you the walk of a catwalk model or a screen siren. They can complete an outfit and give you the basis for an entire colour scheme. They can lift your mood and make you feel beautiful, powerful, sexy. Ah, the wonder of high heels.
Obviously, stilettos can be impractical in some situations. If you’re on the treadmill at the gym or taking a countryside hike, it’s really advisable to stick with trainers (however ugly they are). I often wear ballet pumps if I’m out shopping or running errands. But in the same way, there are certain occasions where heels are an absolute essential.
First of all, I’ve never been to see a client or performed a strip tease in anything less than 3.5 inches. The past few years have seen higher and higher heels make their way out of the fetish clubs and onto the high street so all women can experience the joy of 5 inch heels with an inch platform – just stunning. YSL and Louboutin created some gorgeous styles, and my wardrobe is so much happier with these additions. The same goes for parties, weddings, night clubs and restaurants. Put those pumps away!
If you have trouble walking in sky high heels, you’re not the only one. You need to make sure that they’re a perfect foot so your heel doesn’t slip out the back. Many shops sell gel soles to protect the ball of your foot from becoming sore, and you can also invest in heel grips if they do come off your heel. If you still have difficulty, choose a heel that has a strap over the front of the ankle – it will give you extra support.
Most escorts are aware that the hold up stockings and high heels are a winning combination – it works every time!
x Diva x