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Double Life

Posted by Diva on February 16th, 2010 | No Comments »

Living in London can certainly keep you busy. Although some do it loud and proud, many sex workers keep their job discreet so they end up living a kind of secret double life. It can become difficult to juggle the two, always having to come up with an alibi for when you’re out on a booking.

I dealt with this by confiding in my closest friends, those who I trusted and knew wouldn’t judge me. The most important are those who you live with (if you have house mates); they will be the ones who ask where you’re going, who notice you creep in during the dead of night. It will be difficult to maintain a lie and could make you feel awful, so think carefully about who you shack up with. A lot of escorts I know live with each other so there are no questions asked. Be careful if you do incalls though – if there are any more than two of you in a flat or house, it could be considered a brothel and you’d run into big problems with the law. You don’t want to upset the neighbours!

Unless your parents are extremely open minded or worked in the sex industry themselves, it’s not a good idea to confide in them. Ultimately you know them best and it’s down to your judgement, but they will be overprotective and worry about you – personally I never thought it was worth it.

Boyfriends are another thing… don’t tell him unless you absolutely trust that he’ll keep your secret. You should also be prepared for him to reject you – many people can’t deal with this kind of information. If it’s someone you want to settle down with or move in with, you will need to tell the truth and accept the consequences. They might ask you to stop, they might be ok with it. Again, this one is your call!

A double life can be hard, but you can’t deny it’s exciting…

x Diva x

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