Party Girls
Posted by Diva on February 8th, 2010 | No Comments »
When you start working in the sex industry, you soon become familiar with all of the jargon. It’s a good idea to learn what some of the phrases mean before going to meet a client, just in case they’ve asked for something you’re not prepared to do but you didn’t understand the ‘code’!
One of the most common is GFE which means girlfriend experience, where the client will expect intimate kissing and cuddling. A Levels has nothing to do with your schooling; this refers to anal sex. OWO means oral sex without a condom, and CIM in come in mouth – you’ll probably be expected to swallow.
One phrase that is sometimes misinterpreted is ‘party girl’. If a client requests one of these, you won’t just need to dance like Beyonce; this usually refers to an escort who is willing to take drugs with the client, drink alcohol and stay up all night with them. Cocaine is the most commonly shared, but you may also come across ecstasy/MDMA or Ketamine and marajuana towards the end of the night. Of course these drugs are illegal, but if you do decide to participate make sure you know your own limits and stay in control of yourself. Chances you don’t know where the client gets their supplies from so it could be dangerous; make sure you have a friend or agency who know exactly where you are and who you’re with.
Whatever you decide to do, do it in moderation and be safe!
x Diva x
Weekends
Posted by Diva on February 5th, 2010 | No Comments »
This may be stating the obvious, but for most sex workers the weekend is the busiest time. Often clients are off work at this time and like to give themselves a little treat.
This can be very inconvenient for your social life; chances are that weekends are when your friends go out together, but you may find that you have to miss out because you’re working. When I was working as an escort, I used to always take Sundays and Mondays off, regardless of which other days I was working. This made me feel like my life had some structure, and I could have a lazy day with my boyfriend while he was off work on a Sunday. This may have meant sacrificing one good day’s pay, but I could work all on Friday and Saturday night to bring in the bacon (no pun intended).
You need to decide what your priorities are; perhaps you could organise your schedule to work every other weekend, or come to some agreement with your agency. Just remember to give yourself a little time otherwise you may end up resenting your job and not appreciating the hard earned cash as much as you could!
x Diva x
Masturbation
Posted by Diva on February 4th, 2010 | No Comments »
I was 13 when I had my orgasm. In the year leading up to that, I’d noticed that it felt nice to touch myself down below; wearing tight jeans, I’d lean forward so that the seam rubbed against my clitoris, but at the time I didn’t really know what a clit was! I remember exactly where I was when I first climaxed. My parents had left me home alone, and I was watching a video taped off the TV. After the film finished, it flickered into another film that I didn’t recognise – something French. I watched wide eyed as a middle aged married man carried a young lady to a window, and proceeded to have full sex with her. I later found out that film was Last Tango in Paris, and that scene was rewound many a time for my pleasure. As I watched it a second time, I drew all the curtains and unbuttoned my jeans. I rubbed where it felt nice, then got impatient and pulled my jeans and knickers down to my ankles. Rewinding the scene once again, I felt myself get moist and used this to rub myself faster. My first orgasm was quite short because I was scared to carry on, but I remember feeling my whole body get hot and tremble violently.
Since then, my masturbation patterns have varied greatly. Sometimes I’ll do it several times a day, sometimes not for a week. My husband enjoys watching me as I do him; sometimes we watch porn together and watch each other get off.
Masturbation should never be something you’re ashamed of. Everyone starts at different ages, and unless you do it so much that it interferes with your work or social life, it’s not a problem. Men have a limit on how many times they can ejaculate in a day (it varies), so don’t get irritated if they’re worn out and can’t manage any more sex. That’s perfectly normal; in fact, most men come once then want to go to sleep!
Women can actually increase their libido by pleasuring themselves often; use the skills you’ve learned to teach your man how you like it. It’s a beautiful thing!
x Diva x
Personal Hygiene
Posted by Diva on February 3rd, 2010 | No Comments »
This is SO important for both men and women, especially if you’re involved in the sex industry! If you’re a man hiring an escort, you really must take a shower shortly before she/he arrives. Wash everything properly, brush your teeth and use deodorant. There really is nothing more unpleasant than bad smells when you’re trying to get in the mood, and you’ll probably enjoy the whole experience a lot more if your escort is enjoying herself. If you don’t smell good, your escort may bring it up and ask you to shower, which would be embarrassing and awkward for both of you. Avoid any of this and shower regardless, even if you don’t think you’re dirty! Better to be on the safe side.
If you’re a sex worker who meets clients, the same goes for you. Be as clean as you can to make everything more pleasant for the customer; that way they’re more likely to book you again. If it’s impossible to shower between appointments, there are plenty of portable products these days, such as deo wipes and Femfresh. Do the best you can!
Good luck smelling lovely,
x Diva x
Compassionate Leave
Posted by Diva on February 2nd, 2010 | No Comments »
Being a sex worker usually means you get the final say in when you work. Some escort agencies can be pushy about you coming in, but unless you take the piss by only waltzing in once a fortnight, you get to decide which days or nights suit you (if you want complete control then working independently is the best bet).
Although you can feel obliged to work if you’ve recently had time off, there’s no point if you’re in a bad frame of mind. Just like any other career, compassionate leave may be necessary if you receive some bad news or go through a traumatic experience. Even if you are physically well, you won’t be able to do your job properly if your mind is somewhere else and you’re feeling emotionally fragile.
I once tried to meet a client when I’d had some bad news; I thought I could put on a front and act my way through it, but I was too delicate and the appointment was a disaster. Clients hire escorts to make themselves feel good, so don’t go if you’re likely to make them feel bad!
If you are with a strict escort agency, they may not sound very sympathetic to you asking for ‘compassionate leave’. But stand your ground; working regardless could result on you losing a potentially regular client.
x Diva x
Secret Diary…
Posted by Diva on February 1st, 2010 | 2 Comments »
Just a quick bit of advice to girls who are considering becoming escorts; watching ‘Secret Diary of a Call Girl’ isn’t necessarily a true representation of the sex industry. Some if it is very accurate; if you are a high class escort living in London, you may well experience situations similar to this. However, if you join a budget agency it will be a very different picture. Half of your night may be spent in a run down waiting room, and not all of the clients are as polite and gentlemanly as Belle’s clients.
I’m a big fan of the ITV series, but I just don’t want girls to be mislead and think that they can easily achieve this lifestyle just by being pretty. It takes a lot of hard work and determination, and you have to know exactly what you want!
x Diva x
Smile!
Posted by Diva on January 29th, 2010 | No Comments »
A beautiful smile can transform your whole face. It’s one of the first things that people notice about you, and for escorts it can mean the difference between getting a big tip or getting the door closed in your face!
Most of you will probably agree that teeth are one of the main components of a good smile. I’m quite lucky that I prefer white wine to red, green tea to coffee and I’ve never smoked. Those are some of the biggest culprits for stained and discoloured teeth. The first step you can take towards combating this is to buy a good toothpaste; smokers can get one made especially for them, and there are many brands that offer ‘whitening’ properties. How I made mine the most pearly was by brushing with one of these first, then following that with a ‘tooth polish’ like pearl drops. You can even go on to use a plaque reducing mouth wash too which will guarantee minty fresh breath.
The next step is to pay regular visits to your dentist. You don’t necessarily need to fork out for professional tooth whitening or veneers; a proper clean in the chair can make a big difference. Even if you have no dental problems you should still go to ensure plaque is kept at bay and bacteria doesn’t build up. I can assure that nobody will pay you for sex if your teeth are rotting!
As well as nice teeth, you should also maintain lovely lips. Too much snogging and cold weather can dry them out, so keep a good balm in your handbag at all times. Keep in mind who you’re seeing too; if you’re meeting a client, bright red lipstick might not be the best idea because it could end up being smeared everywhere!
Using these tips should keep your smile gorgeous and enticing, all the more kissable…
x Diva x
Love Thy Neighbour
Posted by Diva on January 28th, 2010 | No Comments »
One of the problems that I thought I’d left behind at secondary school was bitching and bullying. I’ve never been the bitchy type; I didn’t see the point of spreading rumours and making enemies. Those who used to call me a “whore” didn’t know at the time that they weren’t far off the mark where my future was concerned, but I was a good girl back then!
I had a couple of hassle free years after that when people grew up a bit and I moved to London. Here I could hang out with any age group, any gender. The only bitches now were my group of gay friends, but that was very superficial and a sign of their affection for each other!
The next time I had to deal with it was when I joined my first escort agency. It was fairly low budget and there were around 30 girls working for them; I was very obviously the ‘new girl’, but not for long because the turnover was high. But once again I had to encounter jealous, bitchy behaviour and exclusion. The worst cases were the ‘old timers’ who had been there for years, and groups of girls from the same place. For example, in that agency there were always between 5 and 10 Eastern European girls who would gang up and spread rumours about the rest of us. It’s quite sad, and unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it. Of course they want to get rid of competition so they get more bookings, but competition will always be there because it’s such a big industry.
If a client rings up for a slim brunette and you’re a busty blonde, no amount of sabotage will secure the booking for you. We’d often have to spend evenings in the waiting room at the agency, so why not make it pleasant and get along?
If you’re working at an agency like this, don’t be the bully. People will only become ‘friends’ with you because they’re scared of you. If you’re being bullied, just ignore them and rise above it. If it starts getting too intense tell the agency, but sadly there isn’t much they can do. As long as you’re reliable and enthusiastic, the agency will continue to give you preference for bookings – they don’t listen to the rumours.
Hopefully you don’t have to go through that, but just remember – you survived secondary school!
x Diva x
Stop Spamming Me!
Posted by Diva on January 25th, 2010 | No Comments »
As you know, I love to receive comments and feedback from you. However, I really don’t like the massive amounts of spamming I get! Just to let you know, I moderate all of my comments before publishing them, so it doesn’t matter how many fake names or email addresses you post under – I won’t be publishing a link to your porn sites! If you want to talk about a link exchange, feel free to email me and we’ll chat. But attempting to post hundreds of nonsense comments containing your link is just a waste of your time and mine… I appreciate how difficult SEO is, but that’s not the way to go about it.
x Diva x
Getting Your Kicks
Posted by Diva on January 21st, 2010 | No Comments »
When you’re an escort or a sex worker, it helps to have a high sex drive. Your job really won’t be much fun of you’re never in the mood, and if you have a partner they’ll still want to make love to you after a day’s work!
Male and female orgasms are quite different. After a man has ejaculated, he usually needs to wait anywhere between 10 minutes and an hour until he can get an erection again to make himself climax. However, there’s no limit on the amount of times a woman can orgasm, whether it’s multiple or several orgasms in close proximity.
Another difference is that while men can get worn out from climaxing regularly, women’s libido increases the more she orgasms. If you go through a dry period where you abstain from sex or masturbation, this could make your sex drive drop. However if a man abstains, he tends to get more and more horny until he’s like a dog on heat!
The bottom line is, the more sex and orgasms a woman has, the more she wants it. To enjoy yourself on the job and make yourself more eager to meet clients, make sure you keep your organ well oiled! Even if that means spending quality time with your vibrator!
Happy climaxing,
x Diva x